Reset Your Mindset (Do You Feel Beautiful?)

Cori (00:00):
Welcome to the Redefining Strength Podcast. Everything you need to succeed on your health and fitness journey, even the stuff you don’t want to hear. Do you feel beautiful? I didn’t ask, are you at your goal weight? Are you happy with your performance? I’m asking you if you feel beautiful in your own skin. And this isn’t an external thing, it’s actually an internal feeling. And I bring this up because we can feel beautiful at all stages and phases of our journey in life, and we should. And if we don’t, we need to take a deeper dive into what is going on inside our head. Because if we’re not pausing to appreciate where we’re at right now, as cliche as it is to say, enjoy the journey. If we’re not enjoying the journey, we’re not going to pause when we get to our goal and feel fabulous at that result.

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We’ve worked so hard for. Yes, we do value what we fought for a lot more than what came easy to us, but we won’t see all the struggles as being worth it because we won’t ever pause to appreciate having gotten there if we’re not in the practice and habit of doing it prior. And we always think that reaching some point in life, reaching some goal will make us happy, but it’s really in the journey and in us becoming who we want to be, that we do feel more fabulous. I can tell you in my own quest to get abs, it wasn’t actually achieving abs that made me feel strong and fabulous and beautiful. It was realizing how much I could overcome. I had set this challenge for myself, and it was a challenge that was silly or vain or not that important. It wasn’t life threatening.

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I didn’t have to do it, but I prioritize myself and my goals over other things, which for me was something I didn’t usually do. I usually put myself and my needs second. So it was prioritizing myself. It was going all in with something I thought I couldn’t achieve and proving to myself what was really possible. And through that I built so much strength. I felt so much perseverance. I felt so much resilience. I learned so much about myself that had nothing to do with getting abs. But when I actually finally got abs, I was so happy with the result. And the funny thing is they weren’t near as defined as they later would become because I wasn’t yet really fully knowledgeable in the area, but I was so proud of what I accomplished because it was something I didn’t think I could do. And I had built so much in the process, but it requires us to pause and appreciate.

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So when I ask, do you feel beautiful? I really want you to look at the language you’re using with yourself, the mindsets you have about yourself and assess where did this all come from? Where did the self-doubt come from? Where did the talking down to yourself come from? Because if we think about how we would speak to a friend, a lot of the times we would never say those things. And we think, well, I’m being critical and being critical is good. I want to see my flaws. And yes, that’s all the case, but we have to recognize the language we’re using around those things because it’s very different to be like, oh, I’m a type A personality. And also own that or be like, I’m a type A personality. I just can’t ever let loose. There’s a difference in how speaking about our flaws that can make us feel positive about them, make us feel empowered by them, even as weird as that sounds or that can detract us from really seeing our fabulousness.

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So I want you to take a deeper look. If you’re thinking, actually, I don’t feel beautiful, and be honest with yourself, be honest with how you feel right now. And remember, this can also change, right? We are all going to have those moments. We’re down on ourselves, what we’re doing, all those different things because we’re human. But I want you to take a look at the mindsets at the language that you’re using at why you’re doubting yourself or putting yourself down because it truly can be eyeopening. Because in building your beauty, you want to think about what is my relationship with other people? What is my relationship with myself? What is my relationship with food? With working out with all these different lifestyle factors, because so often we just keep doing some of the habits we’re doing because we’ve always done them and they seem to serve the purpose, but we don’t actually assess how are they making me feel?

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If you don’t like where you’re at currently, your habits are what built your current situation. This is a result of all your habits prior. Your past hustle has led to your current situation. So if you don’t like where you’re at, really reflect on how these habits are making you feel. Yes, they might be easy. Yes, they might be comfortable, but are they really serving you and making you feel your best? But this assessment, as weird as it is, this reflection, which can be so hard because we’re stepping back to look at ourself and analyze our mindsets and really question where did some of the self-doubt, the self talking down to this language come from? It’s so key because that is the only way for us to realize all the really good things we have. And while it might feel like you’re sort of Pollyanna yourself, you’re thinking, but I feel like you’re faking it.

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Even you want to say, Hey, I’m acting as if I’m a person. I want to be this person that is confident, states things in a confident way. This person that is confident talks to themself in this way. So you’re not just blowing smoke up your own butt was saying, oh, I’m beautiful. Oh, I’m this, I’m that. No, you’re looking for the things you believe and you’re also thinking about the person you want to become and all the traits that they have. And you’re telling yourself, I have these things because you’re going to prove to yourself, you do. You’re going to build them in the process of becoming that person. You can conquer so much more than you believe is really possible for yourself if you just say, Hey, I can build this strength. I can build this person because you can. But it starts with small tweaks and sort of owning where you’re at right now, even if it’s a place you don’t necessarily want to be.

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So I would really encourage you if you had that, the question I asked, do you feel beautiful? Assess why you answered yes or no. And even all the different mindsets, language, you’re using those different things behind that and assess what beauty really means to you. What does it mean to be beautiful? It means so many different things to so many different people. But what is beauty to you? What do you want out of this life? Because again, what we want out of this life that is beautiful, seeing our own strength, that is beautiful, but I’d really love to hear how you’re doing that reflection and how you’re even taking steps to change your internal language, your internal dialogue, to be that of a friend really pushing you forward. And just remember, it comes back to acting as if you are the person you are building, because in taking those steps, you are going to become that person, but you have to believe it’s possible and that you can prove so much more to yourself.

*Note: This transcript is autogenerated there may be some unintended errors.