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Hey guys, this is Cori from Redefining Strength. Welcome to the Fitness Hacks Podcast. This is the show where I share all my free workout and nutrition tips. I’m not going to ever fill this episode with sponsorships or ask you to buy anything. All I ask in return is if you’re enjoying the podcast to leave a review or leave a five star rating, or even better share it with somebody you think it might help. This will only take a few minutes and would mean the world to me and possibly change the life of someone. So let’s jump right in. What are your goals? Let’s call your goals destination bte, because I want to talk about what it really takes to achieve the success we want and how we often get really focused on only our destination, only a perfect plan, only the habits we think we need to get there.

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And we never assess what the journey actually will look like, how we’re stepping into that new identity. So part of reaching destination bte, reaching our goal means truly understanding where we’re starting from, yet we don’t often take a look at that yet. If you think about how you enter in to get directions from your GPS, you set not only the destination but your current location. Yet when we are really looking at destination B stat, we think, okay, this is my goal. I want to lose weight. I want to be here. And we think, okay, what’s the perfect plan for weight loss? Not, Hey, I have all these other things going on in my life right now. What’s a plan that actually fits my current location? So I want you to take a step back if you are setting goals and think, okay, destination bte. What is the roadmap to get there?

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And where am I starting from? Currently, I call this assessment of where you are currently, the BTE origin story because you want to understand your hero’s origin story because you are your own hero, as cheesy as that sounds. You are becoming the bte, the hero of your story, and there’s someplace you’re starting from some struggle you’re overcoming. And the more we own the struggles we have, the more we own the priorities we have right now, the more we can overcome those excuses. And as weird as it sounds, we want to embrace the pain that we’re suffering from right now. And you might think, well, it’s not really that painful. I just have five vanity pounds, sls, okay? But there’s something that’s driving you to want to make a change to lose those five pounds. And generally even a goal we deem small or inconsequential because potentially someone else has told us it’s not that important or we feel vain in achieving it has farther reaching ramifications than we really realize and more pain attached to it, be it even just the pain that we feel like we haven’t been able to achieve something we really want.

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We haven’t seen that strength to be able to overcome. And so we haven’t built that confidence, that strength and in overcoming a goal that might seem vain or silly or inconsequential in the grand scheme of all the amazing things that life has and all the horribleness or good things out there, we can build so much strength to even pursue more other things. I can tell you for me, as much as I sort of wrote off wanting to get abs like, oh, this is just a vain goal in achieving that goal, I found so much strength to overcome. I challenged myself to be uncomfortable in new ways, and that had such far reaching impact in what I believed I was capable of because I showed to myself that if I really wanted a goal, I was going to find a way to learn what I need to do to overcome the obstacles in the way.

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So I want you to take a look at where you are right now. I want you to think about your origin story. What is the pain of staying stuck? Because the more you understand that pain of staying stuck, the more you can use that motivation to overcome the pain of change, but also even recognize when the pain of staying stuck doesn’t outweigh the pain of change and where you have to change the habits to meet you where you’re at. And I bring this up because in looking for a perfect plan to reach that goal that we have, and thinking about what plan is supposedly perfect for weight loss or gaining muscle or this or that, we don’t assess who and what we are. And so we do all these different things at once, and this is where we start to think tracking is restrictive. I can’t do macros.

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I can’t work out for an hour six days a week. Instead of saying, okay, so that’s too painful a change for me to make right now instead of doing nothing, what is a change I can make that isn’t too painful? That might mean right now saying, Hey, I’m going to do three days a week, 15 minutes. Hey, I’m going to do three days a week, five minutes. Hey, right now tracking macros or even thinking about macros in general or tracking my food just feels like too much. I’m just going to add in vegetables to one meal or increase my protein at just one meal by adding one more ounce. Think about how you can change the habit to really fit you, because so often we get this very, this habit is good, this habit is bad, this is right and this is wrong. And this binary view doesn’t serve us because habits are, they’re able to be implemented in so many different ways to meet us where we’re at.

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So really assess where am I currently? What is the pain that I am suffering from? What does my lifestyle truly look like? When am I waking up in the morning? How do I feel with how I’m waking up? Am I energized in the morning? How is my sleep? How do I feel with my workouts? How do I feel with my habits? How do all these different patterns and behaviors that I’m repeating truly make me feel? And then even think, where do I feel the pushback when I think about the perfect plans I’ve tried to implement in the past that have left me stuck? Where do I see myself running into the same hard that I’m running back from, that I’m turning around from? Because I think in assessing that, we start to realize we always hit the same hard point. It might be at six weeks, it might be after the January motivation wears off.

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It might be with keto because we restricted carbs, but there’s some underlying thing below the surface value. And it’s that we’re always running into the same hard and we’re never continuing forward because we’re never doubling down and stepping back to pause and assess what hard we’re hitting and how we can overcome that, or how other priorities have shifted. In January, you might have the perfect time, but in February you might start to travel or work might start to pick up or something else starts to come into play. That by not assessing the evolution in your lifestyle, you’re hitting that hard and you’re turning back because you’re not evolving those habits. But the more you understand your current situation, your current lifestyle, where you’re starting from and the pain involved in that and the habits involved in that, the more you can plan out that roadmap and even have different paths forward.

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It’s almost like you have that GPS that can tell you ways around the traffic. You want to find that same ability or way of giving yourself guidance in your own fitness journey. And so that means assessing where you are currently, not just where you want to go or the perfect plan for that. And I bring this up because I had someone email me and they were like, I really want to lose weight. I’m really struggling. And I asked them about their diet and they’re like, well, I love all these different carbs, and they go out for pizza and do all these different things. And so I’m like, okay, well, what do you think is a change that you might use? Or what program were you thinking about going with? And they’re like, well, I think I’m going to do keto. Everything they had outlined was processed food, more eating out, more carb heavy.

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And I asked, I’m like, why are you going to do keto? And they said, because my friend did it and it really worked for them. And I’m like, well, do you think that’s realistic for your lifestyle? Well, I think I could cut these things out. And it’s like, but for how long are you forcing a mold that really doesn’t fit? Are you forcing a round peg into a square hole? And in really having her step back, she started to realize like, oh, this is why I haven’t seen the results, because I keep going after a perfect plan, something I think I can use short term. And not that we don’t use certain things short term, and what you do to reach a goal isn’t what you’ll do to maintain it. But there has to be some change in actual lifestyle habits, mindsets, the underlying actions we’re taking.

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We have to find ways that we’re learning something about ourselves to move ourselves forward and create that discipline, not just forcing a mold that we can maybe willpower our way through for a little bit. And so in having her step back, she realized that keto wasn’t the way, and that by actually tracking what she’s currently doing, she could work those things in find evolutions in our habits that moved her forward and see sustainable results. Now, it’s not the overnight quick fix that some of these fad diets promise us and even give us, but it’s the lasting results because we don’t want to look good for just one day, and we don’t want to just lose 10 pounds to gain it back. We want to truly see changes, and we want to reach that destination B stat. So I would really urge you, as you’re setting goals, don’t just look at the goal.

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Don’t just look at a perfect plan. Look at where you are right now to evolve habits to meet you where you’re at. And then recognize as you reach that goal, you’re stepping into a new identity. Think about what that lifestyle truly looks like to be there. Because I think even in assessing that, and when I questioned her more about the keto, I’m like, does your destination have that same lifestyle that you’re now trying to use to get there? And again, there’s evolution in it, but she realized, no, I wouldn’t be maintaining this long-term. Okay, well, what would you need to be maintaining long-term to maintain the results that you’ve built? And then assessing the actual lifestyle and not just the goal, not just having lost the 10 pounds, but what is the lifestyle that person’s leading to then maintain that loss? She started to see how we could sort of backtrack to her current location and make the habits that she needed now eventually evolve into the habits she would need to sustain.

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So I would urge you, as you’re setting goals, take a look at your current location to meet yourself where you’re at, and do the habits you need right now to move you forward knowing that they can evolve over time. Don’t force a perfect plan. And then as you look at your goal, really assess the lifestyle you’ll be stepping into with that, because that’s what helps us connect all the dots and really have that GPS, that roadmap laid out in a way that moves us forward and moves us forward in sustainable ways. So I would really tell you reflect, don’t just seek a perfect plan. Don’t just seek to take action immediately and force yourself into all these habit changes. Really draw upon where you are right now and outline the lifestyle you’ll need to be living and assess what identity you’ll be embracing, because I think that will help you take a different perspective when you make changes this time and see the results that you actually deserve versus jumping from thing to thing, hitting the same, hard to only turn back. Thanks for listening to the Fitness Hack Podcast. Again, this is the place where I share all my free work, workout in nutrition tips. I’m never going to run sponsorships or ask you to buy anything. All I ask in return is if you’re enjoying the podcast to leave a rating, review or share it with someone you think it might help. This will only take a few minutes, and it would mean the world to me and possibly change the life of someone you know

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