Cori (00:00):
Welcome to the Redefining Strength Podcast. Everything you need to succeed on your health and fitness journey, even the stuff you don’t want to hear. You’re doing the workouts, you’re tracking the macros, you’re working really hard, but it still kind of feels like you’re spinning your wheels. And it’s not a lack of willpower, that’s the problem. It’s that you’re planting in a field that hasn’t been cleared. And I want to break down this analogy for you because often what we really need is to slow down to speed up. So in this episode, I now only want to go over three steps to help you do this so that you can finally see the results that you deserve, but give you some reflection questions to ask yourself. Because I think a lot of times we just go all in and we try and speed ahead. And what we ultimately need to do is take that step back to realize what we’re applying all of our hard work to.

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And if we don’t take that first assessment, a lot of times we’re adding on all these other things to a field filled with weeds. We’re trying to plant seeds where they can’t grow. So let’s go through the different steps that I think you really need to take the slow down to speed up to ultimately see better results. So step number one, and I bring all this up because I get a ton of questions and comments of people just saying, just tell me what to do. And the problem with that is, is that you can’t just be told a plan to do. You need to build a plan around where you’re at right now, and that means assessing what’s in your field, right? You are a field. What is in that field? Is it filled with weeds? Is it growing very smoothly? Does it have proper irrigation?

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But step number one is you need to take that time to actually prep, can’t rush it. You need to assess where you’re at right now. If you want to create sustainable, lasting habit changes because that ideal plan you’ve been searching for, it doesn’t exist. And the more you keep trying to seek it out, the more you’re ultimately trying to force yourself into a mold that doesn’t really work for you. Like saying, I’m going to do six days a week, because that’s what the plan says when you can barely do three means that you are having a mismatch in what’s actually possible. You’re saying, oh, I’m going to grow this plant here That thrives in tropical climate. When you’re in the desert, it’s not going to work. So you have to pause to prep and make sure you are going to be able to plant things that can grow.

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So I want you to think, what is my actual lifestyle looking like right now? I want you to assess what’s going on that would make things stressful. What have I tried in the past that hasn’t worked? What mental resistance have I built up towards tools? What tools have worked for me in the past? Really reflect on what have you done and where are you at? Ask yourself even the question of what quick fix have you chased before? And what happened when the motivation wore off? Because if you think about it, every time we’re looking to make a change, we’re super motivated. We’re super driven. Maybe it’s that we tried on those pair of pants that didn’t fit, or we stepped on the scale or we don’t like how we look, or we just feel low energy. Usually that drives us forward with motivation, and we’re even willing to embrace more sacrifices to see the result that we want because we feel bad.

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But that bad feeling also then gets attached to a lot of the habit changes we’re trying to make, especially if with tracking, we feel restricted. And so then we have negative feelings towards that. So we have to assess what did we try and do when we’re motivated and what was the impact of that? And then how do we try and do too much, which ultimately sabotaged us. This pause right now to reflect on all those different things can save us a whole bunch of time and energy later. Yet so often we just say, I want to be told what to do, and we jump right in. So the first step is really pausing to prep before you make any changes. And it can be hard. It can be hard to slow down to speed up, but if you clear that field, you have that field cleared to then be able to plant the seeds so they can grow properly.

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But if there’s a whole bunch of weeds, nothing’s going to thrive. Then step number two is really knowing what is in your field. We don’t often even realize what is and isn’t a weed. It could be a really pretty looking flower, but ultimately a weed that could kill everything else if we let it thrive. I don’t know a ton about plants, so I don’t know what that pretty flower that would kill everything else would be. But there are plants that do that. And the same thing can happen with habits that we’ve already ingrained, routines that we’ve already ingrained patterns that we’ve already created. Think about how many times you try to make that healthy habit change, and then you come home after that stressful day at work and you go to the cabinet and before you know it, you’ve got that whole bag of chips half eaten already on the couch and you’re going to devour the rest of it.

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That’s a pattern, a seed that has been planted some time ago that now has grown into something that you might not even be aware is there. And a lot of times what we try and do is cut it off at the stem, right? We don’t actually pull out the roots, but we’ve got to truly understand what has grown in our field before, what it actually has available to it. Again, if it doesn’t have proper water flow, we can’t grow something that needs a lot of water. So in pausing to prep our field, we also have to pause to recognize all the underlying things that are there, all the roots that might still be buried, all the seeds that we haven’t recognized that have even grown, because these are all the mindsets, the patterns that we’ll repeat, especially when we get stressed, especially when that motivation wears off.

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So I want you to look at three habits you’re repeating that might be holding you back currently, three patterns you found yourself falling back into, especially when you’re stressed. And then even think about what beliefs are you holding onto that are causing you or slowing you down or causing you to slow down. And I bring this back to the tracking that I brought up earlier. When do we usually go to tracking our food when we’re not happy? And then what do we do with tracking? We cut things out. No wonder we have a negative association with it. We’ve used it in a negative way in the past when we haven’t felt good. It’s felt like punishment. It’s felt like restriction, but tracking itself is none of those things. So we have to recognize the habits we might need, the lifestyle change we might need that we’ve pushed back on in the past, oh, I’ve hated increasing my protein, or I’ve hated doing strength work, or I’ve hated doing this, right?

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Assess why you dislike those things and how you’ve implemented them in the past and how they might serve you now and resisting those hard changes might be the one thing that’s keeping you stuck. But the more we reflect on the mindsets and beliefs and habits and attitudes that we have and the interaction between those things, the more we can help ourselves really understand the situation we’re dealing with to move forward. And then step number three, build the right environment. When we see results, it’s because our environment is reinforcing the habits that we need. Ever notice the second you go on vacation and then you come back and you’re thrown out of your routine, it’s way harder to get back into things and you feel like you’ve completely lost the flow. It’s because of that shift in environment because maybe you don’t have the same meals prepped even coming back, or you don’t have everything ready the way you have, or you’ve been out of that routine, out of that environment.

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It’s even something I see happen with clients and coaching is they’ve built these habits, they have this routine, but they don’t even recognize how much. Having that constant reminder of some of the resources or the community really helps them. I green those things. Or even when you think about going to the gym first thing in the morning. The first morning you don’t put out your clothes or you haven’t put out your clothes the night before. It’s a little bit harder to get yourself up, a little bit harder to get to the gym often, and it’s because we don’t have that same environment, as silly as some of these little habit things might seem. But those visual reminders, those environmental reminders, those habit repeaters almost, they are the things that keep us in the routine. If you think about it, on a stressful day, you walk in the door the same way you put your bag in the same place, you go to the cabinet the same way you go to the couch in the same way if all of a sudden you weren’t to come in your front door or you want to put your bag down the same place or you weren’t to have the thing in that cabinet, those are environment interrupters, pattern interrupters.

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So really think about your environment and is it setting you up to repeat the same patterns and habits and routines that you don’t like, reinforces the same mindsets that you don’t need or that aren’t serving you? Or is it being developed in a way that reinforces the person you want to become, the habits you want to implement, the new lifestyle you want to lead to reach your goals. So I want you to think about what do you need to stop doing to make the space for the results you want? And what’s one small habit you’re ready to plant this week? And I want you to think with the stop doing to make space, think about it as what we prioritize or what we value we prioritize, and what we prioritize we’re going to do no matter what. So if there are things in your day, you’ll do no matter what right now, because they are priorities and they’re usually also your excuses for why you don’t have enough time for other things.

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Put them last in the day instead of leaving your workout to the end of the day to put all the priorities you have first, put your workout first because that way you’re going to do all those other things, you value them, so you’re going to find the time to do them. So put first a thing that you won’t find the time for. If a push comes a shove at the end of the day, or you’re stressed out or you’re tired, but think about what even do you need to stop doing to make that space? Do you need to stop doing specific things in your environment? Do you need to shift your environment? And I’ve used this example before, so I apologize if you’ve heard it, but it’s something for me that was so eyeopening in how much the environment can shape what I do. But I had candy in the cupboard and I would play the one more game when I was stressed and I would go, Ooh, one more piece of candy, one more piece of candy.

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And I keep going back to the cabinet. All of a sudden, one day I just threw that in the freezer and it was like the game stopped. Is the candy just as delicious and just as accessible in the freezer? Yes, it might even be arguably some of the pieces of candy more delicious. But that change in environment and the fact that I’m like, well, it’s here forever, even though it would’ve lasted a heck of a long time in the cabinet, it’s here forever. It shifted the environment. It was that pattern interrupt I needed. So as you’re thinking about something that you want to implement, think about some of the things you need to stop doing or shift how you’re doing or change your environment to help you prevent the same pattern from repeating as you’re planting that seed. Because we can’t plant the seed in a field overgrown with weeds.

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It’s not going to thrive. So if we’re only trying to add new habits, do more workouts, do the macros work harder When the environment isn’t set up for success, we’re not going to seed things snowball. So hopefully these questions are helping you start to reflect. And if you want more, I want you to check out the journal entries and the journal questions that I have in the video description that will really help you or in the show notes that will help you also dive into these things a little bit more so that you can go through these three steps and really take action. It doesn’t have to be more than 10 minutes, but even take 10 minutes to really reflect and pause to prep. Are you clearing the field to then be able to put in the work in the right way with the seeds that you want planted there, the habits that you want?

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How are you shaping that environment to help you move forward to see the results that you want? And it’s not easy. It’s really hard to even pause ourselves to take this time to think through things before we just jump into an ideal plan. But this desire to just be told what to do, to implement something that seems perfect is what holds us back and doesn’t allow us to meet ourselves where we’re at right now. So stop thinking about trying to do more and think about how to do things differently this time. Slow down, clear the field, plant the seeds, and put in the work strategically to help them grow.

*Note: This transcript is autogenerated there may be some unintended errors.