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Hack Your Hormones To Lose Weight

Hack Your Hormones To Lose Weight

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Change Requires CHANGE

If you’re feeling stuck and know deep down that you could be doing better, don’t wait any longer. Your life is not going to change until you take action and make a bold move towards your goals. If you’re ready to take control of your life and start moving towards the results you want let us help you achieve your goals. ⬇️

Change Requires CHANGE

If you’re feeling stuck and know deep down that you could be doing better, don’t wait any longer. Your life is not going to change until you take action and make a bold move towards your goals. If you’re ready to take control of your life and start moving towards the results you want let us help you achieve your goals. ⬇️

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Cori (00:00):
Welcome to the Redefining Strength Podcast. Everything you need to succeed on your health and fitness journey, even the stuff you don’t want to hear. Are you blaming your age? Are you blaming your hormones? Well, guess what? Michelle and I are going to bust those excuses today. Okay, got to be a little weird. Have a little fun. But seriously, I know it can feel like our hormones have just been thrown out of whack and we’re seeing weight gain and all these different symptoms that we don’t know how to navigate, and we think, what can I do about this? Am I just doomed? But you’re not, and there’s so much we can control in our diet to help us see fabulous results at any and every age. So thank you, Michelle, for joining me today. I know this is a topic that you are especially passionate about as well, so I’m excited to jump in with you.

Michelle (00:45):
Yeah, thanks for having me. I always love talking about women’s hormones. Health, we

Cori (00:50):
Hear a lot of excuses, right? We hear, oh, well, I’m middle aged. I’m just doomed to gain weight. Oh, well, menopause means the Meno pot. I have to accept it. What do you say to that?

Michelle (01:02):
I say throw it all our way because it’s just like you said, it’s an excuse. There’s some things that we tend to just accept as the new norm when we don’t have to. And truthfully, it’s easier to accept it as the norm versus actually changing to actually confront it and make it so it’s not your normal. And that’s really what I want to bust through is you can take your power back from this, but it does require some work on your end. And we don’t like getting uncomfortable and it’s sometimes it’s going to make you a little

Cori (01:32):
Uncomfortable and it’s a thing of your body has changed, therefore other things in your lifestyle need to change. And it’s where we see that disconnect. And I actually had a comment just today on Facebook about this of, but I haven’t changed my diet. I haven’t changed my workouts. Why am I gaining weight? And that’s actually the problem. Our body, our needs, our goals. Heck, sometimes even without hormonal shifts, our lifestyle has changed. And if other things don’t evolve, including our diet and our workouts, we’re going to have a system that’s not matching where we’re at right now, and then we’re not going to see the results and progress forward that we really want.

Michelle (02:10):
I love that. And that’s honestly something I see that comment all the time is I’m not changing anything. So why is this happening to me? And a hundred percent it’s because life isn’t stagnant no matter how much we try. You can’t stop your body from aging. It’s going to happen. So if you can’t stay stagnant in that moment, your diet can’t stay stagnant. Your exercise state can’t stay stagnant. You have to adjust and work with your body and stop trying to work against it.

Cori (02:40):
But one size doesn’t fit all when we’re making changes, and I think a lot of times we hear about the recommendations for a specific age, for a specific time of life, and so we jump right to doing those things and then it doesn’t fully fit and then we feel even more broken. So because of that, I’d love for you to really dive into what’s changing in our body at different times and what hormone fluctuations we might be seeing so that we can understand the impact and then determine what the right course of action is for us because our activity level, our lifestyle, are going to impact things, and it’s not just the hormones that completely dictate everything. So what’s going on that we might have to navigate so we can dive into then how to navigate it?

Michelle (03:17):
Absolutely. So the first things first, and this one, I want to say it almost is in charge of everything else. It’s the domino effect. It starts here and then other hormones become affected. Your lifestyle needs to change, and it really comes to estrogen. I know you probably aren’t surprised that we’re talk about this because you hear about it so much when you are hitting perimenopause. Menopause age is estrogen does decline. That’s natural. No matter what you do, you cannot stop that clock. Your estrogen levels are going to change. However, what this is actually affecting within your body is it is going to affect how you actually metabolize food. It’s going to affect your muscle mass, how your capability of actually being able to gain muscle, and again, this isn’t another excuse that I’m handing you where it’s like, oh yeah, this is a harder time in your life where it’s going to be harder to put on muscle.

(04:12):
No, it’s just different. You just have to make sure you’re providing your body with the right nutrients. We’re doing the right workouts to combat that. Estrogen is a little bit lower and it is going to affect that muscle mass. Those are going to be the key things first. And I’ll be honest, so often I see people just be like, oh, estrogen’s low. I need to do X, Y, Z. Like you were saying, I have to get on the HRT. That’s going to be the number one thing. And that’s not bad. It’s an option. It’s something that you can pursue. But something that I really, if this is the only thing you walk away from, this is what I hope it is, is no matter what you are doing, even if you get some hormone testing done, no matter what that test is, you have to continue to reevaluate and you can’t fall victim to a rigid result.

(05:01):
And I say this because if you are actively trying to improve your diet, trying to improve your workout, putting on that muscle, that is going to affect those results in a positive way. So we want to make sure that we aren’t getting stuck in, oh, well this is what my test said a year ago or six months ago. If you are actively trying to improve, those levels are going to change. I just had a client who has had RMR testing done to see what it was, and within the program, she actually found that because she’s regularly testing, she found that it increased by 200 calories. And she’s like, what happened? It went up. And I was like, well, yeah, because you are putting on muscle, you’re improving your metabolism, you’re doing all these things, and so you are going to see some changes at a hormonal level as well.

Cori (05:55):
And I want to equate this. I think when we’re talking about these things, we want to understand what’s going on, not to place blame, but to allow us to make accurate adjustments. And I want to use this example because I don’t think we often think of it this way. We do. We just say, well, I have to write myself off because of this. But estrogen levels changing means that other things in our diet and our workouts need to evolve so that we can still put on muscle because it is still possible. Yet going back to the muscle building thing, we don’t really hear people just blaming, oh, well, I’m an experienced exerciser, so I can’t put on muscle as easily, so I’m just doomed to be stuck, never putting on muscle. But actually the more advanced you are, the longer you’ve been training, the harder it does become to build muscle because you’ve adapted to more training stimulus.

(06:36):
Yet we rarely actually just blame that and write ourselves off. We say, oh no, I can push harder. I can do these other things. We almost see it as more incentive to do more. And so I would say when you do all these different things, it’s owning the reality to address it, to move forward because knowing that it is harder to building muscle, that you actually are potentially using protein 40% less efficiently as you get older, even you just increase protein knowing that as an advanced exerciser that you’ve adapted to more training stimulus, you find new training stimuli to use to help you improve your results. It’s owning your reality and even understanding that what once was could shift, and that means that you have to continually adjust and adapt even more. But it’s all opportunity. It’s not placing blame and writing yourself off.

Michelle (07:24):
Yes, and that is so key because it is so important that we are making those little adjustments. You are your unique self and you are going to be the one that’s going to help drive that forward. And you can’t. I feel like the biggest disservice we can do is just allow ourselves to be placed in a box.

Cori (07:44):
And with seeing these hormonal shifts, we can think, oh, well, my metabolism is now more sluggish. I need to eat less. But we wouldn’t generally recommend that. And as you even brought up with your client, when she learned to fuel properly could build more muscle, she increased her metabolic health and her caloric demands actually went up. So it is a weird thing of we think dieting means deficit means eating less, but that could backfire during this phase where we see these hormonal changes.

Michelle (08:13):
And that is often because, and I’m going to say the science is still there, calories in versus calories out. Yes. But the problem is there’s so much nuance to that. So even this client that still is having great results, we’re increasing calories, she’s doing that and she still is technically in a deficit. We just have in our mind that again, we have that rigidity issue where it’s like, oh, well I was losing last time. I was losing weight in my twenties. I ate this many calories, so I need to go back to that. And you’re not taking into account, but you’re also putting on muscle mass. Do you still have the same muscle mass as you did in your twenties? Have you improved it a lot? I see a lot of women in our program improving that muscle mass and they have more muscle than they have in their forties and fifties than they even did in their twenties,

Cori (09:01):
And that’s despite it’s supposedly getting harder to do so, but it’s owning your reality. And with that, we’re seeing estrogen levels decreased. What can we do or what other dominoes might we need to address that might be hit by that falling over? And then what can we do from a nutritional standpoint to help ourselves own where we’re at to move forward?

Michelle (09:22):
Yeah, so when estrogen kind of goes it, like I said, it kind of dictates the balance of a lot of other ones. So it’s one of the things that your body is kind of like, oh, well, it’s a feedback loop. So when that starts to dip, we’re going to start to see other hormones also dip a little bit as well. And then in some cases even have some higher levels. So this is where progesterone, testosterone, yes, women, we have testosterone as well, and it’s something that we want to make sure that we’re staying in balance, but it all kind of comes back to what’s happening with our estrogen levels. So some things to keep in mind, and I’m going to start very basic and then we’re going to get into a little bit more nuance, but one is going to be protein. We highly recommend that you are hitting at least 30% of your calories coming from protein.

(10:12):
And the reason being is that is really where research actually shows the benefits start. That’s not to say 30% is the cap, but if you are looking at trying to make sure that we’re seeing some of these improvements, you’re able to put on more muscle mass and make sure that we are improving strength metabolism and even insulin sensitivity, which guess what? Estrogen actually affects your insulin sensitivity, which is often why we do put on a little bit more weight if we’re changing our diet because we have issues with some carbs. I’m not demonizing carbs. We just have to adjust. So it’s something that we want to make sure that we are actually consuming more of is going to be that protein and specifically dividing it throughout the day. One of the things that I see often is, I call it back loading, where you wait until the very end of your day and then all of a sudden you’re trying to get all your grams of protein in before you go to bed. And the reason is is we do want to make sure that we are balancing some blood sugar throughout the day. Protein’s really going to help that. It’s going to help with satiate, satiety said that word wrong, satiety and going to help even some cravings throughout the day. So that’s really where we want to make sure that we’re spreading that out.

Cori (11:23):
We also don’t utilize it as efficiently and we need more of it to stimulate the same muscle protein synthesis response. So by spreading it out and even getting larger portions of 40 grams in a sitting 30 grams in a sitting, we’re going to see a better response to that, especially around our training. But I bring this up too because a lot of times you’ll hear, oh, 20 to 30 grams is all you can use, guys. These are done on supplement studies first off, and also that’s what goes to muscle protein synthesis alone, and protein isn’t just involved in building muscle. It is important for so many other processes, which I can let Michelle touch on. But on top of that, we have to recognize that our goals really dictate what we need. 30% is sort of that magical starting point where you can really see great results, whether you’re building muscle or trying to lose fat, but especially in a deficit, you need a little bit more protein because you not only will help improve the thermic effect to burn more calories so that you’re seeing better fat loss results, but also protect your lean muscle because you’ll always have those amino acids readily available to repair the muscle tissue and you’re deficient technically in enough calories to really do so as efficiently.

(12:30):
So you need that extra protein versus in a muscle guine phase, yeah, you might be closer to that 30% where you were at 40% for the fat loss phase, right? Different goals will dictate different amounts, but it’s understanding when it’s even important to increase further for other reasons outside of just that muscle building. Protein is oddly a really good weight loss tool because it is so filling because it does protect that lean muscle and because it puts us at less risk for putting on fat. They’ve done studies where carbs have been higher, fat has been higher, but ultimately what really leads to the best results is always protein being higher. But Michelle, I do want to touch on the other benefits of protein because we so often just hear about only consuming this much and we forget that that’s just the amount that goes to muscle protein synthesis, and especially as we’re going through menopause, it is important to get protein for so many other things.

Michelle (13:19):
And you kind of touched on it a little bit, but one is people when they hear protein and they tend to think animal products, there’s other plant-based options as well, but they still are only looking at the product as just protein. They’re not realizing what comes within the package. And oftentimes that is going to be the micronutrients. There’s vitamins, there’s minerals, there’s things that are in there that we tend to need that we gloss over. But one of the big things too is when you are looking at what women respond best to, and we’ve kind of touched upon it, I’m going to talk about fat in a little bit, but you are looking at making adjustments to mainly your carbohydrates, probably going to see a little bit of adjustments within your carbs. And when we do that, you can’t just take away, you got to fill that gap with something that’s going to be where we look at protein.

(14:08):
And one of the big things, we talk about the amino acids for the muscle mass and making sure that we’re protecting that lean muscle mass when you’re in a caloric deficit. But one of the things that we kind of, I feel like gets glossed over is let’s talk about metabolism when you are getting adequate amounts of amino acids and specifically even making sure that you’re getting enough calories in general, but if you’re making sure that you’re getting those amino acids, getting those vitamins and minerals, those pathways that we tend to turn off, I always say it’s like having light switches. We can flip on or off. When you aren’t providing your body with adequate amounts and with adequate amounts specifically in a caloric deficit because we’re trying to lose weight, your body will start turning off those light switches. So there’s no such thing as a broken metabolism.

(14:58):
It’s often that you’re not providing your body with enough of those micronutrients and amino acids that your body’s able to actually perform all those pathways because we put things in a hierarchy of needs. Your body just trying to keep you alive, running your organs efficiently is going to be top priority. When those switches get turned on, you’re going to find, oh, you’re, and I know we’ve talked about this before and it seems so small, but it’s such a big thing, you’re going to actually find your cellular turnover increase. Your skin itself is going to have some improvements in it. You’re going to find your hair growing, your nails growing. I’ve had clients that were like, I wasn’t sure about this. And all of a sudden I realized I haven’t shaved in two years and I needed to start shaving because my body, she goes, I just thought that my body stopped producing hair on my legs. Turns out, nope, your body had turned off that switch because you weren’t providing it with enough quality nutrients. So that’s something important to keep in mind and why we want to make sure that we’re giving our body not just adequate, because truthfully, if you look at the RDA, that’s just for to stay alive, to keep things running. We want optimal nutrition. And to do that, we are going to be increasing, most likely you’re going to need to increase your protein

Cori (16:16):
And optimal as our body changes. And that means potentially having even more than prior, even though often we think protein bodybuilders, we think the bros in the gym, nope. The older we get as we go through menopause as females, we need extra protein. It only helps us. Now I do want to tangent a little bit into the carb discussion and touch on fiber. And before I let you go into that, this is where I want to circle back to what I mentioned at the beginning of understanding why we’re making certain recommendations is really key because there’s always nuance or the but situation to them because you’ve already alluded to the fact that we might see a little bit more insulin resistance creeping in when we’re getting a little bit older as we’re going through menopause. However, just demonizing carbs can sometimes be what’s holding us back because we hear in menopause, reduce your carbs, but then we have someone super active come in who’s an endurance athlete and that backfires massively. So understanding why the recommendations are being made to also understand why they might not fit you is super important. But Michelle, let’s go into a little bit adjusting your carb intake, why fiber is so key.

Michelle (17:26):
So oftentimes we’re usually low. In general, we are low in fiber, and the reason why we really want to put an emphasis specifically when we are in perimenopause menopause age is because fiber does actually help bind and eliminate excess estrogen. Now I know you’re probably like, wait, you just told me that estrogen is dropping, so why do I want to put an emphasis on this? And this is where it’s key to know is estrogen doesn’t just disappear. It still exists in circulation, it’s still there, it’s still in your body even in menopause, and your body’s still going to produce some small amounts usually from adrenal glands and even from fat tissue. That’s actually why we kind of get the menopause is because that’s kind of our body’s a little bit of a, I don’t want to say defense mechanism, but basically a little bit of a defense mechanism because we start to produce more estrogen there.

(18:19):
Or of course you could be getting it from HRT if that’s a route that you’ve chosen. And the goal isn’t to with fiber, it’s not to eliminate estrogen, it’s to make sure that we are properly metabolizing and clearing any excess or unbalanced estrogen metabolites. So what can happen is even if you have low estrogen, if your body isn’t actually metabolizing that correctly or even utilizing it in the correct way, we want to make sure that we’re providing the body with a way to eliminate what is going to potentially cause us to have issues. So you can still be low estrogen and be considered estrogen dominant about that balance of estrogen to even progesterone within your body. So this is really where fiber is key. And I know, yes, we talk about fiber not just for satiety, we talk about fiber. If you’ve heard of GLP, fiber can actually help produce more GMPs within the body so you can actually have that kind of going for you as well.

(19:21):
And we do, one of the big things too that I’m going to touch on briefly is fiber feeds the gut bacteria. We’ve talked a lot and you probably have heard a lot about the gut microbiome. There’s been a huge emphasis on it. And if you’re not providing your body with fiber to make sure the good gut bacteria is getting fed, you are actually going to have an imbalance within your gut and be having issues with digestion and all that fun stuff. So that is just a few reasons why fiber is so key at this stage. It’s really to make sure that we are helping our body actually be able to find a balance even with estrogen

Cori (20:04):
And fiber is magical for our health and a lot of times that’s what we even think about fiber for gut health, overall health, but it really is essential for faster fat loss too. And that’s the sexy component that we don’t think about. So we don’t prioritize it, which I know sounds weird, but let’s face it, a lot of times when we start making dietary changes, it is for aesthetic reasons and that’s not a bad thing, but these can also pay off our health, but we have to own how much fiber is involved in that fat loss process and really important. And part of that too is even the balance of blood sugars, which we really need to focus on even more as we see these hormonal shifts.

Michelle (20:40):
And I’m going to still saying from one of our coaches that you can eat your carbs naked but don’t eat a naked carb. So again, we’re not demonizing carbs. Carbs are needed carbs often, or you’re choosing a different one. Oftentimes you’re going to have that fiber package be part of it, but we do want to make sure that we are doing that so that our body is also not having these huge spice and drops with insulin itself. So it’s natural to have rises and dips with our blood sugar. We want that, but we don’t want to have these huge spikes and these huge drops. We would like to keep it more steady throughout the day.

Cori (21:19):
And with talking about fiber and protein, there’s another component that I know is very near and dear to your heart, hydration. How important is adjusting our hydration? Which we know the answer very important, but can you talk a little bit about the importance of hydration and not only how it helps with that hormonal balance with everything in terms of fat loss because it’s very important for fat loss as well, even though for some reason this very simple habit is very hard for a lot of us, myself included at times, but I feel like one of your favorite subjects, Michelle.

Michelle (21:50):
It is my favorite subject because it’s one of the cheaper, one of the easier way it wants to do. And no one, I’ll be honest, hardly anyone that I coach or chat with as probably is coming to me drinking enough. And I always say, it wouldn’t be a chat with me if I didn’t say something about water. So it’s going to impact your thermo regulation, how your body’s actually able to break down and digest foods. It is a huge part of your hunger cues. Oftentimes as we age, our thirst signals go down and we actually misinterpret hunger cues for when we’re thirsty. The other reason is you mentioned is fat loss the role it has in fat loss. So for your body to go through the process of lipolysis of actually breaking down those fat cells, it has to start with lipolysis where the water is required to actually start that process of breaking it down.

(22:45):
If you are not providing your body not with enough water, now again, I’m staying away from adequate, we’re talking optimal water, optimal hydration levels, your body isn’t going to prioritize that process, so we want to make sure that you are getting enough water. So we probably always have heard the saying of drink six to eight glasses of water a day or half your body weight in ounces. That is typically just making sure you have adequate water. We’re looking at optimal. I tend to recommend that we are looking more at 70% of your body weight and ounces of water. And the reason is one, because we are doing optimal protein levels. And when you do that, that means your carbohydrates are naturally going to typically be decreased and carbs hold onto water. So you’re going to be a little bit more inclined to be slightly more dehydrated because of, but we also want to make sure that we are providing the body with more water because as estrogen declines, estrogen also circulates the body and kind of acts like a sponge.

(23:55):
So I’ve had some women that were like, I had zero menopause symptoms except I had to start taking eye drops or my knees are starting to hurt, and typically that’s a sign that their hydration level is off. So this is really where it’s key. And we’re going to talk about muscle too. Yes, you have to have proper hydration levels to even make sure that the transient system of getting nutrients to the right spots is well armed and that’s going to require water. So drink your water. If you are sitting there right now and you don’t have a water bottle near you, I want you to be that person that is always walking around with water in your hand. And I am going to talk just a little bit too, because it’s not just about that hydration, but it’s also about making sure that you’re properly hydrated, not just water alone. Most of us will benefit if we add at least an electrolyte throughout our day.

Cori (24:51):
Hydration truly is key and all these components are these fundamentals. If you focus on them and emphasize them, you’re going to see such a better balance and faster results towards your goals, whether it is muscle building or fat loss or that elusive body recomposition we’ve been told can’t happen losing fat as we gain muscle, which it can. You have to prioritize one goal a little bit over the other, but that process can happen. When we go back to these basics and other symptoms, we see skin health is a big issue or concern. Drier skin, crepey skin, right? Focusing on protein, focusing on water, wanting that fat loss and to address bloating and different digestive issues a lot of times. So a little bit more focused on water and fiber can be really key. There’s so many different ways all these things combine to make us feel our most fabulous.

(25:37):
And I love that you brought up muscle and water too because a lot of times when we’re trying to build muscle, we see the scale sort of jump initially where we’ve increased calories potentially. And with that we’re storing carbs, but we’re storing water rate and this is needed. It’s why with creatine when someone goes on it, it does bring water into the muscle that helps with the anabolic process. Now, with all these, there’s one final component that I know is so important. Fats, fats don’t make us fat and they’re often super essential during menopause. And before I let you jump into that, Michelle, I do want to bring up too, guys, when we’re talking about hormonal balance, what we’re really talking about is optimizing for your current hormone levels. And I only say that because I think we have this idea that we’re bringing up or we’re bringing down and we’re doing that and not that we aren’t sometimes changing the levels of different things with how we’re fueling, but a lot of it is about optimizing our diet and our workout to work with our hormone levels and address what we need to see the improvements that we need.

(26:34):
But Michelle, I want you to dive into fats and even your commentary on that.

Michelle (26:39):
Yeah, absolutely. And I love that you’ve shared that because I think it’s important to when you’re going, and I’m going to just put this plug in right now, when you’re making these dietary changes, it’s going to feel a little hard, a little bit weird at first. You are going to have potentially even some dietary distress where it doesn’t feel quite as well. And I’m saying that just because your body is working on learning how to break it down, working on developing the good bacteria, so it’s better to break down. So when you’re doing these changes, don’t just try it for a day or a week and be like, well, that doesn’t work. I’m out. We do want to make sure that we’re at least giving this at least a solid month and actually comparing what our energy levels are at what we’re dealing with and kind of addressing from there.

(27:21):
So off of that, going into fat. So one of the biggest things when it comes to hormone levels changing is oftentimes we kind deal with a level of inflammation that’s going to occur. Oftentimes you’ll hear menopause is being the slow simmer state. And one of the big things with that is, yes, we’re going to be able to eat high anti-inflammatory foods, so making sure that we’re having omega threes is going to help with that. But one thing that I don’t think is emphasized enough as to why we are focusing a little bit more on fat is because when you eat dietary fat, it does help with hormone production and it helps it in a more like what you have said is finding that optimal level for you so that your body can actually produce things accurately. So one thing that does happen is because estrogen is heart protective is we often find cholesterol levels jump when we hit menopause.

(28:20):
And this can sometimes cause people to overcorrect where they’re like, oh, I got to avoid fat, I got to avoid cholesterol, I got to avoid all this stuff so that my cholesterol level is good. Your sex hormones are actually produced by cholesterol, so it’s still something that your body requires. I’ve seen some people take it way too low and we’ve had and have kind of worsened their response and their symptoms because their cholesterol was too low. So we’re really, the recommended level is really about 300 milligrams of cholesterol. Then that’s really just to make sure that we are being able to actually create and produce those hormone levels. So we’re really looking at those healthy dietary fats, omega threes, monounsaturated fats, saturated fats. So we’re looking at the olive oils, the nuts, the seeds, the fatty fish. That’s really what we want to make sure that we are focusing on so we can maintain optimal hormone production. And I’m going to say that optimal level changes with age. So this isn’t us trying to get to the same level that we were in our thirties or twenties. This is us making sure that our production is where it needs to be at the phase we’re in.

Cori (29:33):
And it’s also remembering that fats have benefit in terms of our nutrient absorption from other foods. I think we forget about that and we start to just see foods or macros in only one way or is only one benefit. And we’re like, well, then I’m getting enough because I’m doing X. And if we’re eating a lot of vegetables, making sure that we’re getting fats with them and healthy fats. Not only are we getting the healthy fats alone that really help, but they’re making other things more valuable. Everything really is so interconnected and I don’t bring that up to make you feel like you have to do everything at once, but also to recognize where maybe one area is lacking and that could be impacting the benefit you are seeing from something else else if you feel like another change isn’t fully paying off.

Michelle (30:19):
And I think that’s huge too because I mean, I think we know that bone health is important. We talk about bone health, we talk about getting in that calcium, but if you’re not eating enough fat, you’re not getting enough, your body is not able to absorb as much vitamin K and vitamin D. And those two vitamins also decline our ability to absorb and produce, sorry, not produce. Our ability to absorb does decline when we age. And so we want to make sure that we’re getting adequate fat because that is what’s required to actually be able to absorb those. And you need vitamin K. I know you probably pieced it together, but you do need vitamin K and vitamin D along with calcium to actually be able to improve your bone health and bone density.

Cori (31:02):
So we’ve touched on fats, we’ve touched on hydration, we’ve touched on fiber, we’ve touched on protein and the importance of all these things and adding them in to some extent. And we really do like that nutrition by addition, focusing on controlling what we can control in a positive direction to feel really full and fueled. Now I do want to touch on two things that we might want to reconsider our intake of. And I bring this up as a person who consumes both probably wants to consume both for the rest of her life, but also wants to understand the impact of everything I do so that I can weigh the cost and reward. Because for me, one of these things, well, I’ll give a little hint. Alcohol, I’m a craft cocktail girl, but there are phases of the year where I’m driving towards a specific goal and I might not include it knowing it is detrimental to that goal. And then in another time of year I’m like, this fits this balance. So choosing to include or not include with understanding the cost and reward of these things is really key, but also understanding the changing impact they might have. So Michelle, two things we might want to at least understand more of the cost of when we’re seeing our hormone levels change.

Michelle (32:12):
So that’s going to be caffeine and alcohol. And this is really, and again, I like that you’re saying this, it’s the balance, right? There’s going to be times where you are going to be like, yeah, this is worth it to me, and that’s completely fine, but it is just owning that choice. So when it comes to alcohol in particular, oftentimes we just kind of change in how we’re able to metabolize it and hormones do affect that. So you probably have heard like, oh, if you drink alcohol, it can slow your body’s ability to build muscle or loose fat. At the end of the day, alcohol is something that your body is going to prioritize to get out and remove from your body and how we’ve talked about your body has a hierarchy of needs and a focus that is one that it will focus and prioritize. I’m not saying that you can’t drink alcohol and lose fat and gain muscle, but I am going to tell you, your body is going to prioritize the removal of that from your body first and foremost. So if you’re someone that’s drinking a lot and very consistently and not seeing results, it may be something that you want to start removing and seeing if that is actually going to help you move forward faster. Now, oh, go

Cori (33:29):
Ahead. Oh no, I was just going to say sometimes we don’t understand how much things are linked. And if you think about menopause being the low simmer state, the slow simmer state where you see that chronic inflammation and then you’re adding in another inflammatory thing on top of the fact that it might make you feel like you’re sleeping well, but trust me, it is not improving the quality of your sleep. And if you’re feeling tired the next day reaching for that caffeine, which we’ll talk about shortly, not feeling energized, you’re creating this bad cycle and you might not realize that it’s linked to this one thing. And maybe just by cutting it out most nights and having it only on the Friday night, that fixes enough for you. It’s not that you have to do one straight elimination or maybe if you are like, I want fat loss and I want it yesterday, you do cut it out for a little bit knowing you’ll add it back in during your maintenance phase. But it is really looking at what are the struggles that you’re having and if you’re controlling a lot of good things, where might there be something that you don’t realize the impact of because of how your body has evolved.

Michelle (34:30):
I love that you touched on sleep. Yes. I so often will hear I end my evening with a glass of wine because that’s what helps relax me. That’s what helps me go to sleep. So the problem though is oftentimes alcohol, it can help relax you and can help you fall asleep. The problem is it actually affects your deep rem. Now when we are in menopause, that is something that actually is a little bit harder for us to have is good quality deep rem. So it’s something like you said to be aware of. If you are being like, oh, I just need this to be able to sleep, you may not realize that you’re putting yourself in a negative feedback where you are using that glass of wine to relax you to fall asleep, but you’re not getting good quality sleep. And so you are relying on the caffeine and the extra coffee at the end of your day to get through your workday. And then you’re building yourself up to meet to a state where now you have had this caffeine and now you need to relax yourself again so you can get on this negative circle and need to jump ship. And this is just way that we can kind of make sure that we are doing that is play around with it and see what that level is for you, see what that balance is for you, what’s worth it.

Cori (35:47):
But it’s also recognizing that what used to work might not now work and that it’s going to not feel good in the process of getting off this spiral, so to speak. You’re going to feel low energy, you’re going to feel a little cranky. That doesn’t mean it’s not working. It means that it probably is something you need even more. Now jumping into caffeine, and I want to start this off by saying I have in the past for fat loss phases, done coffee black in the morning before my workout. There’s a lot of now pushback against that with cortisol levels and different things like that. And my answer is always, that’s what worked for me in that phase to have the energy I needed to find the balance I needed just for the routine that I needed and wanted and how I like to break up my macros.

(36:26):
However, I would not necessarily recommend that for a lot of different clients or for a client in menopause. And I think it’s understanding that that doesn’t mean it was wrong. And honestly, I don’t do it as often now for a lot of my fat loss phases or I definitely don’t do it during a muscle building phase, but it’s understanding the nuance to things and how we can meet ourselves where we’re at to find something sustainable for our lifestyle. But I do want to talk about caffeine because I think it is both beneficial for fat burning but can also be detrimental with the hormonal shifts.

Michelle (36:57):
Yes, and that’s key too, is caffeine. Unlike other things, there are benefits to certain levels. So starting your day or even before if you work out in the morning and you’re using that black coffee as kind of a little bit of a pre-workout, isn’t necessarily a negative thing. Where we can get into trouble is if you are someone that has high stress levels, you’re seeing the me, you’re seeing the Meno pot, you’ve done some testing, your cortisols super high. That is something if you are starting your day with caffeine alone and you’re not eating, this is in combination with food, you aren’t allowing that cortisol level to kind of come back down. So what happens is our body’s natural rhythm, and I know this is kind of exact and everyone’s a little bit different, but they find that we tend to have spikes in our cortisol usually between six to eight in the morning.

(37:50):
So if you’re someone that is drinking caffeine and you are working out and you’re not consuming any calories or any protein in the morning, even after that workout, you’re setting yourself up where you are getting higher and higher levels of cortisol and you’re not allowing your body the things that actually requires to bring it back down. So that’s where people can kind of get in trouble with caffeine specifically in the morning. Now what I see is when we are having it later in the day is when we are hitting, and this is where it even goes back to hydration and electrolytes. So oftentimes I’ll find people feeling fatigued and when they’re feeling fatigued, they’re feeling tired, they’re like, oh, I need that extra cup of coffee or maybe an energy drink to get through the workday or to get through whatever their day has that it’s thrown at them.

(38:42):
Now the problem with that is, is it does take our body a while to actually metabolize caffeine. Women’s sleep is so affected by our hormone levels when we’re going through the shift of hormones that it can negatively affect again, that deep rem. So that’s really what we’re protecting, and it can take up to six hours to actually be able to metabolize and remove caffeine. So even if you had that cup of coffee or that extra energy drink and that afternoon to get through the day, if you’re hoping to go to bed at eight, nine o’clock to try and get a full, I know that’s early for some people, but if you’re trying to get to bed at a decent time and get good quality sleep, your body may still be trying to process that. And what I’m leaning back with the electrolytes is oftentimes if you’re hitting that fatigue in the day, it can also be a sign of dehydration. And so I often recommend if you are someone that has been reliant on a caffeine drink midday or afternoon, I have seen so many clients have so much better results by replacing that or kind of reducing the caffeine with an electrolyte drink.

Cori (39:54):
It’s understanding the nuance and everything, and again, assessing what am I struggling with and what am I doing both positive and negative? And if the positives aren’t paying off, what might I need to eliminate? And I like going to the positives first because sometimes if we do a little bit more of those, we can find our balance as well. But adjusting simply the timing of your caffeine if you really enjoy your cup of coffee, could be enough. Maybe even if you do like it in the morning and you like it on an empty stomach, then maybe you shifted a few hours later after waking up even. I’m not recommending this for everybody, but there’s so much opportunity in seeing the options when you understand why with cortisol levels being higher at that time, or even if you do enjoy coffee before your workout and you really just, it’s part of your routine, maybe mentally you feel like it gives you that little push.

(40:40):
Hey, I now do shakes. They’re protein, coffee drinks, right? Or you can make your own protein coffee shake or you have protein in a little overnight oats, not protein, coffee in overnight oats, but you can make little tweaks to routines where it doesn’t feel like you’re having to completely do something different or throw out things you enjoy. It’s just understanding why these might be important, or even owning, Hey, this is a non-negotiable. What else can I adjust? Hey, I really like my coffee first thing in the morning, but I can give up the cup of coffee later at night. Or, Hey, I like my coffee early in the morning and I have wine at night, so maybe I’ll only try one because this other one’s more non-negotiable, right? It’s all about that balance. We’re not recommending everybody do everything all at once. And so with that closing thoughts, what you would have someone start with Michelle, how you would approach these different changes to meet ourselves where we’re at?

Michelle (41:31):
Yeah, so you mentioned this couple of times, but I’m going to repeat it, is this isn’t about restriction, it’s about rebuilding. It’s about working with your body, not against your body or trying just to force yourself into a box that you don’t have to force yourself in. So really when it comes to this, I know this probably isn’t going to come as a surprise if you were only to start with one or two things. My two things, and I know Corey’s going to reverse the orders, but my two things is water and protein. If that’s the bare minimum that we can do, and we’re looking at those changes, that’s going to be where I would say, let’s put the effort there. But if you are someone that has done, has gotten a little bit more information of where your body is right now, you can also tackle, you don’t have to, you can still see results with those two things, but if you want to be more pointed at whatever your results are, maybe you found that your C-reactive protein is super high indicating that you have high levels of inflammation, and for you, you want to focus on those fats to make sure that we are taking away some of those inflammatory triggers with the olive oils and kind of focusing on that you can.

(42:44):
But that would be kind of my main suggestion is I would say start with the basics. Start with the water, start with the protein, go from there and build.

Cori (42:52):
It’s addressing the lowest hanging fruit while understanding that sometimes the lowest hanging fruit are actually the hardest changes to make. And if we try and force those, like say, cutting out caffeine or cutting out alcohol, we ultimately sabotage ourselves. So just because it technically is the easiest to reach and pick doesn’t mean it’s actually the easiest to do, which I guess the analogy kind of dies there, but just really think about what will have a big impact, but might also feel so silly, simple. You could start it today because that’s going to lead to you wanting to do more to seeing those results snowball because you’ll be able to build off of it. So just because something seems like it would have a big impact or be in theory, easy to do because it’s just cutting out X doesn’t always mean it is easy because you have that mental resistance, you feel that restriction. It doesn’t feel like a choice. So really address not only the importance to you, to your health, but also what’s a change that seems really doable. Michelle, any other thoughts?

Michelle (43:54):
No, honestly, I would just say, like you said, I’m just going to reiterate, just start with whatever the lowest hanging fruit for you is not what someone else is going to say. I know I said water and protein, but really what it is going to be that you can work into your lifestyle.

Cori (44:10):
Well, this was fabulous. A lot of great tips, guys. I hope it really helped you see the opportunity in making changes to evolve your diet, to meet your body where it is at right now, and not use hormones or age as an excuse, stop blaming them, address them instead. Have a fabulous day and a great rest of your week.

 

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7 Habits Of Highly Consistent Humans

7 Habits Of Highly Consistent Humans

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Change Requires CHANGE

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Cori (00:00):
Welcome to the Redefining Strength Podcast. Everything you need to succeed on your health and fitness journey, even the stuff you don’t want to hear. You don’t need more willpower. If you want to succeed, you need a better system. And I really think it boils down to seven habits. So I was thinking about Stephen Covey’s seven Habits of Highly Effective People, and I wanted to boil down what I see as seven habits of people who succeed. And instead of saying it as Seven habits of successful people, I’m going to call it seven habits of highly Consistent Humans. And the reason I word it that way is because it’s not just about the outcome and what someone’s doing when they’ve actually succeeded, it’s about the consistency in the changes they’ve made in the boring basic habits. It’s not about perfection, it’s about finding that plan and putting in those actions and learning from every experience.

(00:56):
So that’s why I’m calling it Seven Habits of Highly Consistent Humans because that consistency in those changes, in those mindset shifts in those actions. That’s what makes them ultimately successful. Because I do think too, when we’re thinking about success, we look at a person who is successful right now and what they’re doing right then and there, not what even got them there and what they’re doing at their end goal is going to be very different than the habits they might have started with. So if we’re just going to be like, well, this athlete trains this way, they’re training that way at that stage to get to that stage, you might have to do other things and by only trying to mimic what they’re doing, then you might be holding yourself back from moving forward. So it’s consistency in those changes and in the habits and in the mindsets that I think really pays off.

(01:37):
I wanted to break down the seven habits that I find very, very valuable to help you be consistent. I will tell you that none of them are perfection. The most successful people aren’t perfect. They’ve actually probably failed a whole heck of a lot more times than any of us have. And in those failures, they have learned what they need to move forward. So we have to really reframe it in our head of, I won’t fail to, how can I fail and learn from it? But number one, and this leads into it, is assessing before we act. This is habit number one, assessing before we act. How many times have you seen a new program been like, that’s it. That looks perfect. They say that it’ll achieve all these goals, and you jump right in, it looks perfect, it looks ideal. Did you actually assess if that fits you where you’re at right now?

(02:23):
Is that person at all in the same lifestyle or having the same experiences that you’re having? What makes you think that plan will even work? So often what we’re really doing is we’re planting a seed in a field just full of weeds, but we have to clear that field first. If we want to see results, we have to do all the prep work so that the seed is primed to really grow, yet we don’t treat our goals the same way we’re planting this new habit, this new program, this new whatever in this lifestyle that’s just overgrown with all these bad habits. It’s why I always say when we’re learning new habits, there’s an unlearning phase that also has to come with it, but often we just try and force the new habit on top of what’s already there instead of even embracing that unlearning. So the best thing we can do if we want to see success, if we want to be able to get consistent with something is first assessing before we act, do the prep work.

(03:14):
Slowing down to speed up is not sexy and least, but it’s super important. Then set a personal GPS. Where do you want to go and where are you currently? And I say that because a lot of times we do have our goal. I want X. Okay, well what does X really look like? What does your destination really look like so that you can get a very clear plan in place to get there? But also where are you currently when you set your GPS, you have to enter both destination and current location to get an accurate roadmap. Yet so often we don’t really reflect on where we are now to see how far we have to go. We just assume and sort of point at a direction on there. And then on top of that, we pick a plan based on potentially what looks good based on somebody at the goal.

(03:54):
But what we don’t recognize is we’re looking at the last couple turns we have to make to get to our destination, not what they did at their starting location. We have to first start with the turn out of our driveway. I dunno about you, and maybe not quite this bad, but if we turn the wrong way out of our driveway, which I probably have done, honestly, we’re not going to be set up for success at all. We’re completely heading the wrong direction even. And then you have to turn around right from the beginning and no wonder we’re frustrated. That’s what it is when we go on a perfect plan versus assessing a plan that actually meets us where we’re at. So set your personal GPS really say, what does it look like to be at the destination? What does my current location look like and what are some steps I can do to build to get there?

(04:35):
Not just what are the last steps someone does while they’re at that destination. Then number three, spot the loop and break it. I call it the change loop because often what happens is we are really excited with a new program. We go all in and we create this habit overload where we’re doing so many changes that we feel like we’re just will powering our way through and we get more and more depleted and we think this isn’t sustainable. And then life starts to get in the way. We don’t see the exact outcome we want. The skill doesn’t seem to budge, right? And we hit a little emotional sabotage where we’re like, is this even worth it? And once we hit that point, it’s a very quick downturn into I quit and we fall off. And then eventually we get re-motivated because we don’t like where we are and we go for another program promise.

(05:17):
In order to break down a break out of that, we have to double down on what’s working. But that means that we also have to assess what’s causing that habit overload and even that emotional sabotage. So we have to recognize when are we trying to do too much? When are we trying to do habits that are too hard? When are we trying to do habits that do not match our lifestyle currently, even if they might be ideal or habits we need. Now, I’m not saying everything’s going to be easy as we’re making changes, but we do have to meet ourselves where we’re at. So if right now you are looking at a habit change that always creates that overload. And then if it doesn’t pay off that emotional sabotage where you want to quit, how can you break down one little part to double down on?

(05:57):
So if you’re like, Hey Corey, you always talk about macros. I want to track macros, but they just seem so overwhelming and I can’t hit my carbs and I can’t hit my fat. And I get really frustrated. Well, can you focus just on calories? Can you focus just on tracking? Can you focus just on protein? Can you focus just on adding protein to one meal and not even tracking to start? What is the habit you can do to build that success and that momentum over creating that overload? And then from there you can build more. But what we have to recognize is that effort doesn’t equal outcome. Effort doesn’t equal change either. It can feel like a lot of effort to do something that’s not making a whole heck of a lot of changes, which is why we’re not moving forward, which is where we can get that emotional sabotage when it doesn’t feel like the effort is paying off because effort doesn’t equal change.

(06:40):
We have to make changes to see that outcome, but we can feel emotionally like we’re working really hard without making a lot of changes just because the things that we are doing are very challenging to us. So really assess where am I repeating that loop? How am I causing myself to fall back into the same old pattern? And it’s not only breaking down habits, but recognizing things in your environment that are promoting it. If you put out your workout clothes and that always triggers you to go out, it’s not that you really got in the habit of just working out. It’s also that environment that shifted, that promoted you to do that or push you to do that. And so that can help you break out of the loop shifting your environment. If you’re always stressed and you always repeat the same pattern because you always walk into your house in the same way, how can you break that pattern, create that interrupt, that’s what will help you be consistent.

(07:24):
But you’ve got to recognize the hard you always hit that you want to turn back from. Then number four, sharpen your ax. So there’s the tail of the two wood cutters and they’re both trying to chop wood and the older wood cutter sits down to sharpen his ax at points because he knows that by sharpening his ax, he’ll be able to chop wood more efficiently. And he ends up beating the younger wood cutter who gets really mad because he didn’t take any breaks. And he is like, well, I should have beaten this guy because he only saw him as resting. It’s the whole slow down to speed up. He only saw him as resting, but really he was trying to be more efficient in his work. We don’t think about efficiency enough. We just think work harder, work harder, do more, do more, make more changes, make more sacrifices.

(08:08):
Instead of saying, Hey, how can I own? What is a non-negotiable to me? How can I own my lifestyle to plan for it? Because a lot of times when we do, we create a lot better consistency, we create a better mindset and we embrace changes more to allow them to snowball. When you feel successful with something, you want to do more of it when something doesn’t feel that bad to do, because if you’ve even owned all the struggles with it, you’re like, oh, I can do a little bit more. Right? And so we can create that efficiency in our work by how we plan ahead, how we assess what we want, how we even own that there will be struggles. And setting that GPS is a big part of it. Understanding where we are currently is a big part of it. Doing that prep work beforehand is a big part of it, but we’ve got to think about how can I be a little bit more efficient?

(08:49):
I even like to call it how can I be lazier? I’m always assessing how can I be lazier with something? How can I be lazier with hitting my macros? How can I be lazier with making it easy to get into my workouts every single time so I never miss one? How can I make it easier or be lazy with coming back from vacation so I get right back on track? The more you can start to say, Hey, I’m lazy. I want to own this and plan for that, the better off you’re going to be. It’s the efficiency of work. Number five, build systems. Don’t just rely on willpower. Things aren’t always going to be easy, but the more we make changes that meet us where we’re at, the more we’re going to build a system that drives us forward. And in building the system, it’s not just actions, it’s not just habits.

(09:27):
It’s not just tracking macros or doing workouts. It’s shifting mindsets too because our mindsets will ultimately dictate the actions we value and prioritize. And in creating systems, it’s recognizing when we don’t value or don’t prioritize something naturally, and then finding ways to make ourselves be able to do that. So something that if you don’t do at the beginning of the day and at the end of the day because you don’t fully yet value it, even though you know should value it, you know, should value meal prep, you know, should value doing your workout, but you don’t. And so at the end of the day when you are tired and you have to do all these other things, you’re going to do all those other things. You’re going to sit on the couch, well put that workout, put that meal prep first in the day, and then put at the end of the day the things you know that you will do no matter what because you do value them.

(10:10):
Creating that system is owning what you need to do to shift those mindsets, shift the environment, shift those habits, but it’s truly assessing what you need and steering into that. But it’s also making it almost so easy that you’re not relying on willpower because self-control isn’t an infinite thing. It’s like a gas tank. It gets depleted, it gets depleted from handling maybe kids getting sick and you having to pick ’em up or a boss at work doing something you don’t like, right? There’s all these other things in our life that drain our willpower and self-control when we have to respond positively or just handle them or whatever else. And so sometimes the things for us, there’s no self-control left for right. We deprioritize ourselves in favor of doing these other things. And so recognizing that to create systems that make it easy to not rely on willpower or self-control, that’s where success really happens.

(10:59):
And sometimes it’s not about doing more, it’s about doing less. It’s about learning to love the minimum even and embrace the minimum and maximize the minimum to move forward. Number six, turn pain into power. It’s painful to fail, it stinks to fall down, to have that setback, to not get the result we want, but in that is our power and that it is the best learning experiences. They stick with us. So anytime you have that struggle, own it. See the opportunity in it, see the power in it. See even that by saying, Hey, this is a positive. I can learn from this. I can get feedback from this. You’re showing yourself your own strength. That’s where strength is revealed, and confidence is built through what we overcome. So embrace that there is power in that pain and don’t minimize your goals. It might be five to 10 vanity pounds, it might be getting abs.

(11:49):
It might be things that you feel a little weird talking about, or they seem life or death are as important as your health or all these other things. Don’t minimize those goals though, because in what we overcome and what we conquer with those goals and the fact that we can dedicate ourselves and put ourselves first and get what we feel we deserve and optimize this one life too, and the struggles we overcome with those things, even if they seem for not as important a why, we’re even not valuing what we should value, that ability to overcome for those things, that pain almost, it’s powerful. And when we overcome it, it’s very, very powerful. Powerful. So don’t run from the struggles. Don’t hide from your goals. Don’t minimize them. Conquer them because they will teach you so much, which will help you move forward in so many areas of your life.

(12:38):
And honestly, the more we even say, Hey, there is pain in struggle, there will be setbacks. The more we own that and oversell the negative, the more we help ourselves get consistent with something or find minimums we can do even when there is that pain pushback. And then number seven, don’t start over. Just adjust. There honestly is no starting over in life because everything you’ve done prior has some impact on you. It’s not like a video game where you just come back and you get to restart in the size and you don’t have any of the negatives or the positives or any of those things. Don’t play enough video games, but you’re just starting over. But now with the knowledge, you’re not starting over. Everything that happened prior now has an impact. All those previous dieting attempts, they’ve turned different mindsets towards different habits. They’ve created metabolic adaptations.

(13:21):
There’s all these things that have built up. That’s why I always say when someone’s like, well, how long between these two photos? Well, six weeks, but my entire life led to what happened in those six weeks. Because I can embrace certain sacrifices. I can embrace certain tools or tactics because of the mindsets that have been created around them prior, my experiences with them, the knowledge that I have. So just recognize you are never starting over. So all you can ever do from where you’re at right now is just to keep moving forward. And the more you see it as that, the less guilt you also feel because you’re not starting over. You learn a lesson now you’re going to enact that lesson and you’re going to learn from it again. There is power in pain, but just recognize that you are not starting over. You are adjusting, and you’re going to be constantly adjusting because nothing in your life is standing still and nothing will work forever. So just remember when you are trying to move forward towards your goals, you can’t just think about the success you want. That’s why I call these the seven habits of highly consistent humans, because that’s ultimately what builds towards your goals. Getting consistent, but owning who and what you are and really reflecting on what you need at each stage to keep moving forward. That reflection, I can’t say enough about it because that really underlying all these different seven tips and habits is what makes you be able to utilize these as effectively as possible.

 

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3 Tips To Stop The Self Sabotage Cycle

3 Tips To Stop The Self Sabotage Cycle

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Change Requires CHANGE

If you’re feeling stuck and know deep down that you could be doing better, don’t wait any longer. Your life is not going to change until you take action and make a bold move towards your goals. If you’re ready to take control of your life and start moving towards the results you want let us help you achieve your goals. ⬇️

Change Requires CHANGE

If you’re feeling stuck and know deep down that you could be doing better, don’t wait any longer. Your life is not going to change until you take action and make a bold move towards your goals. If you’re ready to take control of your life and start moving towards the results you want let us help you achieve your goals. ⬇️

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Cori (00:00):
Welcome to the Redefining Strength Podcast. Everything you need to succeed on your health and fitness journey, even the stuff you don’t want to hear. It was a horrible day at work. You came home, you went to the cabinet, you know shouldn’t have done it, but you grab the bag of chips, then you go to the freezer, you grab the pint of ice cream, the couches call in your name, you head over and before you even get to the couch, half of the bag of chips is gone. And then you think, well, I’ve ruined the day. I’m not even going to go work out. I might as well just eat this pint of ice cream and then who cares about anything else? I’m just going to order some stuff on DoorDash. And all of a sudden you’re laying on the couch at the end of the night, completely miserable, feeling extremely guilty, and you just say to yourself, I just keep repeating this pattern.

(00:49):
I’m never going to see progress. You wake up the next morning, you don’t feel good about it, you feel extra super guilty. You were on such a good stretch. You step on the scale. Holy moly, it has just skyrocketed. This is what I call the flat tire situation. What happens is we get a flat tire, we go to the cabinet, we maybe have a couple of the chips even, and we do have that turn back point right then or that stopping point right then where we could say, Nope, I’m putting this bag back in the cabinet. I’m not grabbing the pint of ice cream out of the freezer. But instead, when we get that flat tire, instead of pulling over the side of the road calling aaa, put it on the spare, fixing it and getting on our merry way, instead of that, we get out of the car, we grab a knife and we go, ah, and we start slashing the other three tires.

(01:34):
We eat that bag of chips, we get the pint of ice cream, we DoorDash stuff. And then not only that, we light the car on fire for weeks on end because we just say, well, I ruined yesterday and tomorrow is Friday and I’m not going to be good on the weekend anyway, so who cares? I’ll just start over Monday and one day becomes four days and what could have even been a handful of chips or a bag of chips becomes thousands and thousands and thousands and thousands of calories and bags of chips potentially over that time. And then because we feel worse about our situation starting over Monday doesn’t happen. We’ve all been there with a spiral and it can go on and on and sometimes it lasts for even months. And the simple fact of the matter is we have a choice and if we can get ourselves to pause at that initial choice and change this pattern, we can fix the flat and get moving forward a whole heck of a lot quicker.

(02:25):
And I say this with having a ton of experience with not only getting a flat tire but slashing the other three. And I will tell you the three tactics I’m going to share to really help you fix that flat faster. I sort of noted right there, it’s fix the flat tire faster. It’s not never get a flat tire. Honestly, I won’t even say it’s never slash the other three, but it’s fix it faster because that’s all we can ever do. We are human. We are going to have those stressful days that make us react, but we have to recognize that it’s not really a failure. We just panic a little bit and when we panic a little bit, if we own the mistake we can get moving forward and really ultimately what holds us back the most is that guilt and that sabotage that we do after not even the initial situation.

(03:13):
So I do want to go through sort of three tactics so that we’re not only fixing the flat when we get the flat, but we’re potentially only slashing one tire, not all three, and we’re definitely not lighting the car on fire and just walking away and saying, forget it. Okay, tactic number one, I want you to set a rule and I want you to set a 24 hour rule because one day, one bag of chips, well, it’s human, right? We have those stressful days, we react out of emotion. We want that comfort. That is even a pattern of comfort that we’ve taught ourselves to repeat, right? We feel better in the moment when we do that. It seems like a good idea. It gives us the instant gratification. So we go to it. What isn’t just human or one of those little slip ups is deciding the next morning that we’re not going to get back to those healthy habits or the morning after or the morning after that or the morning after that.

(04:05):
So I want you to set a 24 hour rule for yourself within 24 hours you have done something in a positive direction to put yourself back on the path that you want. And in that time, one of those actions can be to even reflect on what happened. How did your environment set you up to repeat that pattern? And I say environment because I think a lot of times we think about the stress, the emotion as causing it, and yes it does, but then it triggers a consistent sort of pattern to follow. And a lot of times that is only promoted by our environment. We walk into our house the same way the food’s in the same cabinet, we’ve gotten the same types of foods and if we shifted one of those things in our environment, we could actually prevent that pattern from repeating. So I want you to think the next day you’re back on track, so the 24 hour rule, but you’ve also paused within that time to reflect on what you could do next time to make it so that you’re again, maybe still slashing one tire but not all three.

(05:03):
And the more we have that pattern or that rule that we’re not going to do multiple days in a row, the more we can see that we’re even moving forward faster. And that can create that success mindset that allows us to really shift environments, act as if build that new identity that pays off, but we’re interrupting that spiral. So I want you to think how can you really think about creating a sort of rhythm reset or a pattern interrupt for yourself when this does occur, but reflect on it. Give yourself that 24 hour rule. You’re not doing it the next day no matter what happens, but then reflect on it to say, Hey, how can I change this environment? How can I create that sort of rhythm reset when I do get that urge to have the chips and how can I maybe stop myself from going to then to the ice cream or if I went to the ice cream and DoorDash something, how the next morning can I get right back up and on track?

(05:50):
Then tactic number two, track the bounce back, not the breakdown because so often we create that guilt and that’s really where the self-sabotage builds and we snowball down into a spiral of negativity and off track. So we want to think about how can we really focus on that bounce back over the breakdown and it’s taking pride in how much faster did I get back on track? How much did I get back to those healthy habits? Not all the things I did wrong when I made this mistake. So stop obsessing over the slip and start celebrating the rebound whenever you get back on track and maybe it does take you a week the first time, maybe it took you two weeks the first time, but say, Hey, great, I recognize this and now I have the power to reflect on it and not only did I recognize this the two weeks, but I’m going to write down it took two weeks and I’m going to reflect on all the things that happened and that reflection is something I’ve never done in the past.

(06:41):
So then the next time it happens, maybe it’s 13 days versus 14. That doesn’t seem like a huge win, but the more we can make those incremental improvements, the more we’re also celebrating our success, but the more we’re not having that guilt with it because we know we’re going to get back on track, we’re building that trust in ourselves to keep moving forward through it all. And that’s super key. Think about questions or even things to track as you’re reflecting on those things of how fast did I recover and then what did I do right afterwards? So what did I do right afterwards that might have delayed my recovery, but what did I do right afterwards to also promote improving my recovery from that little deviation? Okay, because the recovery speed really does matter more than the mistake. Ultimately it’s not the one day. If you think about it in the consistency in the grand scheme, it’s not the one day, it’s not the vacation, it’s all the 300 some odd days around it that too often we waste feeling guilty or being off track or not doing what we should or trying to force perfection.

(07:39):
So really think about how fast did I recover and then what did I do right after? It’s sort of reframing what progress is to us to help ourselves track the bounce back, not the breakdown because we’re human guys, we’re never going to be able to avoid mistakes, we’re never going to be able to avoid stress. We’re always going to reach for comfort and the call of our old identity no matter how far away or how long ago we thought we left that identity, it’s going to cause back in our weakest of weak moments and we need to recognize that. Okay? So we just want to try and minimize the delay from getting back on track into the healthy habits we know make us feel best. So one other reflection question that I do want to throw out there because I think this is so eyeopening, is what would you change if you measured your comeback, not your crash?

(08:23):
So if you measure how fast you got back on track, if you reflect on all the things that happened, that is really where the lesson is learned and the more we track that and focus on that versus what we did wrong, the more we give ourselves back power because you did it wrong, it happened, you’re human and it’s going to happen. So sometimes obsessing over this happened, I don’t have the willpower only makes things worse and only makes us feel like we just will never be able to move forward. So really track what you can control and that’s how fast you bounce back from that emotional response. And then tactic number, build your flat tire response plan. We plan for a lot of negative situations in our life, but so often we just accept these patterns. We say this is who we are. We don’t plan for how we can respond to ’em.

(09:09):
So even if you’ve had a stressful day and you’re on your way home from work, start to think about, Hey, what can I do to handle this stress? How can I have fun in a different way? What can I change in how I go home? Because I can already feel myself saying to myself, oh, there’s chips in this cabinet, there’s the ice cream in the freezer. I’m going to go to all these things. And then you start to think, well no, I shouldn’t go to all these things. Okay, the second you start saying, I shouldn’t be doing this, I won’t do this, no, and you feel that white knuckling happening, how can you instantly shift yourself out of that mindset? But think about a checklist you can do and even write out for yourself ahead of time when you have the stressful days or if you know you’re going into a stressful week, Hey, maybe you won’t get stressed out this week, but you know it’s really busy for X, Y, and Z things, which tends to lead to that stress response happening if it is going to happen.

(09:55):
So maybe you put your flat tire response plan as a checklist on your fridge so that when you walk in you can say, Hey, I am going to try and get water first. I’m going to go do my workout first and then I’m going to go from there and see what happens. And the more you have that plan in place and even something you can check off to feel really good about doing the things that you should be doing, the more you’re going to keep yourself in that success mindset and want to do more of those positive things, but really plan ahead. The more we do think about when do these patterns tend to repeat, the more we can prep ourselves for those situations and the more we can catch ourselves and not tell ourselves that something’s inevitable. We do say, well, I’m stressed out, I’m going to go home, I’m going to do these things, and then we even feel ourselves white knuckling against it or pushing back against it, which then only almost even makes it more sort of going to happen, right?

(10:40):
It’s probable. So have that response plan in place. Think about what you’re going to do. Are you going to do five minutes of movement when you first get home? Could you track your next meal? Could you even work in something saying, Hey, I know I really do want these. Let’s see if I can work this in. Because even doing that be like, now I feel like I can have it. You want it even less versus when you know you shouldn’t have the chips, you can’t have the chips and then you have the chips, all of a sudden you have this thing you shouldn’t have and that just makes you feel like you’ve ruined the day versus if they worked in you haven’t ruined anything you plan them in, even if maybe you go to a protein minimum and a calorie cap instead of hitting your normal macro ratios.

(11:15):
But again, think about that checklist and have it someplace you can really see so that it can help you bounce back quicker. Again, we’re trying to track that bounce back, not the breakdown because things are going to happen. We are human and honestly we’re really bad too at winging our recovery. So the more we can have a plan in place, the better off we’re going to be. So the more we can systematize it, the more we can create that environment for it, the more we’re going to make it easier to repeat and the more we’re going to help shift that mindset into that success mindset to keep moving forward. So even a great question to ask yourself is what three actions can help you reset instead of retreat when life throws you off because life is going to get in the way, it’s never going to stop, but what can you control when life throws you that curve ball?

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So the last thing I want to leave you with is what if you just kept driving? So often when we have something happen, we don’t pause, we do say instantly I have ruined the day. But have you ever reflected on what that really means? How do a hundred, 200, 300, even a thousand extra calories that one day really ruin your long-term plans? Especially when you consider what usually happens if you don’t just fix that flat and you go slash the other three tires and even like the car on fire, 10,000 calories added up over that time has a much bigger impact than there’s a thousand on that one day and your ability to show yourself your grit and to pull yourself back up and to move forward, honestly, that strength that reveals is going to build a lot more success in the future than even those a thousand calories are going to cost you.

(12:53):
So I want you to think about what would happen if I just kept driving. What would that look like if I had the chips and I even did have the pint of ice cream and I did DoorDash things and the next morning I just got up and went to the gym and got right back on my macros and moved forward like nothing had happened. I fixed that flat and got right back on the road. Because I think so often we really do think about our trip towards results or getting in the car, driving towards results. We’ll even say as being on this racetrack going in circles and if we pause or breakdown, we’re just done. When really it is a road trip. There are pit stops, there are times we have to pull over to the side of the road. We have to stop to get snacks, we have to refill the gas tank. There’s highways and traffic jams, and all these times where we’re going faster or slower, that road trip is a much better analogy. We’re not just going at one speed around this racetrack perfect conditions all the time. So you need to really think about what would it look like to just keep driving after I fix that flat again? You’re going to get that flat tire. Sometimes it’s going to happen, but the faster we move forward, and that’s what all three of these tactics are about, the better off we’re going to be.

 

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Go From Surviving To Thriving

Go From Surviving To Thriving

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Change Requires CHANGE

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Change Requires CHANGE

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Cori (00:00):
Welcome to the Redefining Strength Podcast. Everything you need to succeed on your health and fitness journey, even the stuff you don’t want to hear. If you’re taking pride in being able to do it all on your own, you’re actually taking pride in staying stuck. So we have this image of the lone wolf thriving on its own, but the lone wolf is actually just trying to survive. So this realization came to me that we keep ourselves stuck by trying to do it all on our own. When I was up at three 30 in the morning, and I was thinking through this conversation with this woman that I had had on email, and she was very proud of herself for I know it all, I can do this on my own, and I’ve been there. So I get that ego in feeling like you can do it on your own.

(00:49):
You are strong enough, you’ll find a way. And again, it goes back to I’m a lone wolf. Well, I actually then had this idea at three 30 in the morning, why do we have this image that the lone wolf is this strong successful thing on its own? And I was like, is it even? How did this come about? So I went and Googled it because that’s what you do when you don’t know what something is at three 30 in the morning, of course. And I realized that the lone wolf is actually trying to find a pack. It is not trying to survive on its own. It doesn’t want to. It wants that pack to really thrive. And it made me realize, do we sort of do the same thing? We go out on our own thinking, we’ll be better off thinking we’re strong enough to do it on our own and ultimately hold ourselves back because we aren’t utilizing the knowledge of others, the perspective of others.

(01:36):
And so we’re not going as far as we really can and we’re limiting ourselves and it’s ego that’s getting in the way. So if you’ve been sort of saying, I’m a lone wolf, I can do this on my own. You need to question if you’re just trying to survive or if you really want to thrive, potentially leaning on others. And it’s hard to be vulnerable in that way. This is where really showing ourselves our own strength, our own ability to be receptive to feedback is so key. So I wanted to go over some strategies to help because I think the shift from feeling like we should or need to do it on our own and getting our ego out of the way is really what ultimately leads us to see better results faster and avoid so many pitfalls. I can tell you that the more I’ve embraced help from others, the further I’ve actually seen myself go.

(02:21):
So I wanted to share some really big, important tactical ways to give yourself that perspective shift. Because accepting help, accepting support is what will ultimately get you further. And if you even think about it, and this is something that really helped me because I was like, well, I know a lot knowing isn’t doing. And also we often can’t know what we don’t know. If you think about Olympic athletes, they’re often technically more skilled, more talented, even than their coaches are. Yet they have coaches to give that perspective. Anybody who’s succeeded at something, if you look down their path, you’ll see all the mentors. They talk about having all the different perspectives they’ve done, all the different they learned from some, gave them really positive experiences and some not so positive experiences. But even the things we do that don’t feel as positive in the moment, that feel like they set us back, we can learn something from.

(03:11):
So the more experiences we have, the more perspectives we get, the more we grow. So I wanted to go over some steps to help you embrace putting that ego aside and getting help. And number one, our step number one is stop overestimating your self-awareness. We simply don’t know what we dunno. And I can tell you that even the more I seek out contradictory opinions, I will literally say, I believe in tracking macros. I want to go read everything on why you shouldn’t track macros. I still am looking for all these things that contradict what I believe from my own perspective and lens. And often in this, we miss the little nuance of things, the little tweaks that could really add up. Maybe it isn’t that I should be finding perspectives against tracking macros, but maybe it’s that I should find perspectives against my belief that X person needs higher carb or this food is important and that’s really what adds up.

(04:01):
But I can’t see some of those things because I don’t know what I don’t know. And so by having outside help to see those opportunities and the nuance, I can start to question what I believe and even improve and grow. When we think about even our movement patterns, you’re focused on what you feel working and how the movement is going. There might be one little way you can cue something differently to get yourself to have an even better result from it, or you might be able to do a little heavier weight or slower tempo in a different way if you do a slightly different posture or position. But all these different things are just things we might not have been introduced to yet. And by putting ourselves out there and asking for help and asking for perspective and looking to constantly learn and grow and be receptive to that feedback and even normalizing feedback, we’re going to ultimately move forward faster.

(04:46):
But I would really encourage you to take a step back and say, I think I’m very self-aware. I think I know all these things about myself, but in what I’m perceiving as the self-awareness, where am I actually missing strengths and where am I missing flaws? Because in that too, we think about our weaknesses just as weaknesses, but a lot of times they’re attached to our strengths as well. And we can’t necessarily change the weakness without a detrimental impact on our strength. However, we do try going to changing the weakness. But what if you just double down on the strength? Instead, all these things are perspective shifts that we might not be able to see because we don’t see where things are attached, and we need that outside perspective. That’s step back to really help. So step number two, to putting yourself out there, being more vulnerable, risking the support of others.

(05:33):
And I say risking because sometimes it can be really uncomfortable is borrowing perspectives before you break. Often we do only seek out help when we’ve really fallen down, when we feel at the lowest of low. And instead of getting to that point, instead of failing, be like, Hey, I’m making great progress. How could I make better progress? Because I think too, we hesitate, our ego pushes back against asking for help because we’re usually asking for help at an uncomfortable time, A time we don’t feel like enough. And if we instead are asking for that perspective shift when we do feel great, when we do feel like enough, we’re going to be way more receptive to it. It doesn’t feel like that negative. It doesn’t feel like that thing that’s a ding to our ego or pride, our knowledge. So instead of saying, oh, I don’t know, be like, I do know all these things, what more can I learn?

(06:21):
Or because I know, I realize all that. I don’t know. If you think about Bruce Lee’s comment about I more respect and I more fear the person that’s practiced one punch a thousand times than the person that has practiced a thousand punches one time, or it might have been kicks if I butcher the quote. But it’s that ability to recognize that the better we get at something, the more we’ll realize there’s more opportunity in it. The more we can improve upon those basics, the more we even have to take ourselves back to those basics to keep improving. And so the more receptive feedback we really get, so instead of seeking out perspective when you failed at your highest of highs, say, what more can I do? Because that’s really where you launch even further faster. So borrow perspective before you feel broken. It shifts your whole mindset.

(07:10):
And even thinking about it that way of like, oh gosh, I’m not looking for support because I don’t know. I’m looking for support because I realize all that there is to know because I know a lot in this area. The more I learn about macros, the more I realize there is to learn and the more nuance I see in the things. So there’s always more to learn. And the more we have that positive association with asking for support, the less our ego pushes back. Step three, learn to love the pushback. The more I’ve almost seen getting feedback and pushback as a good thing, the more I seek it out, the more I want to do it, and the more I realize how much it’s pushed me forward. So think about the last time you did start a new program. You did ask somebody for help and how much you learned from that experience.

(07:53):
But the more you see that pushback is a good thing, the more you’ll find opportunities that weren’t even meant by the initial feedback that you got. But if no one’s pushing you, you are not going to grow. If you really think about everything in life, it’s kind of forged out of a hard, it’s forged out of a pushed, so to speak. We don’t often succeed because we don’t have any struggles. We succeed because of those struggles. If you think about the last time you became more confident, stronger, you saw results or progress, it was often hitting a hard and pushing through anyway, legitimately. Our muscles grow because we tear them down. They hit this hard, we force them into the struggle, and that’s what makes them adapt and grow stronger. That’s how everything sort of works. And the more we see that opportunity, the more we can embrace that pushback and realize how much that pushback is why we ultimately leap forward faster.

(08:47):
So I want you to really change your perspective to recognize that it’s your ego. And I say this, having had lots of ego and trying to do it on my own, but it’s our ego that wants to keep us in the comfort, keep us in the safety, but also keeps us stuck, right? We don’t want to feel bad at something. We don’t want to feel like we failed. But support and seeing opportunity in that support in that perspective isn’t failing. It’s believing in ourselves that we can achieve so much more. We don’t want to just be the lone wolf surviving. We want to be that wolf that finds its pack and really thrives. So I would love to hear how you are stepping back and embracing support, embracing perspective, how you made that mindset shift to allow yourself to see opportunity in the different perspectives. Because again, we can’t know what we don’t know. And only through asking for help, asking for support, seeking to see other vantage points and viewpoints, can we grow and prove to ourselves what truly is possible beyond our own limitations or beliefs?

 

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Build Habits For That Shredded Summer Body

Build Habits For That Shredded Summer Body

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Change Requires CHANGE

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Change Requires CHANGE

If you’re feeling stuck and know deep down that you could be doing better, don’t wait any longer. Your life is not going to change until you take action and make a bold move towards your goals. If you’re ready to take control of your life and start moving towards the results you want let us help you achieve your goals. ⬇️

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Cori (00:00):
Welcome to the Redefining Strength Podcast, everything you need to succeed on your health and fitness journey, even the stuff you don’t want to hear. Life is constantly evolving, and at every new season we have to sometimes step back and assess what do we need now to meet ourselves where we’re at, to keep rocking those results and own lifestyle changes. So I’m super excited to be joined by Sierra, one of my fabulous coaches today to talk about how we can shift with the seasons to make sure that we’re always moving forward towards our goals. Sierra, welcome. Thanks for joining me today,

Sierra (00:37):
Cori. I’m so happy to be here and happy to talk about what the summer will bring.

Cori (00:42):
So with that being said, potentially we’ve started a new habit. We’ve built a new lifestyle. Starting in January, we’re feeling good with our progress, and then we hit the summer and all of a sudden it’s like, ooh, margaritas. Ooh, beach vacations, right? There’s all these different shifts that happen and trying to force the same old habits can backfire. How can we really start to assess what we might need to change to make sure that we’re meeting ourselves where we’re at and not losing everything that we work so hard for?

Sierra (01:15):
Great question. One of the first things I look at is planning to succeed. So you’ve probably heard the quote before, if you fail to plan, you plan to fail, right? And we can’t underestimate that. The summer is an entirely new season. So what we do then is assess the entire summer in total, and then we dive into what that looks like, taking everything into account and I mean everything. So one of the first things that we consider is what does your summer look like? When is your actual summer is what I like to think of. Is it May through August? Is it kind of a calendar summer? Or I’ll ask about careers. Are you an educator where your summer is actually specifically designed into your career? Or who are you actually taking into account for summer as well? Do your kids dictate your summer? Does your spouse dictate your summer?

(02:12):
Are there graduations? Are there elderly parents? Are there parents that know that you have some time off, so they’re going to take advantage of that? We take a lot into account, but it’s really more about the planning than anything that will make a summer as successful as possible. So if we can take environment into account, take your people, your loved ones, your family, your friends into account, if you take even your environment in terms of school zones or summer schools or changing populations in the gym, that’s some factors that may not be as big until you get into the situation. Lastly, we can take even climate into account and weather changes. So for example, if you are kind of prone to sickness when the seasons change, it’s going from cold to warm or if you have pollen, allergies, anything like that. If climate changes, does that affect your workouts too?

(03:17):
Does it affect when you work out outside? Are you a runner? Do you need to now work out earlier in the day to avoid the heat in the afternoon? I know in my example, I live in southeast Louisiana and we have to prepare for hurricane season, and so anytime that happens, we have to figure out how our nutrition plays a part, how our evacuation zones play a part as well to keep up with reality. The reality of planning, so I’ll put it this way, there’s not too much to plan, but we have to be realistic in what our goals are and how that can play a part in a new season.

Cori (03:55):
It’s owning the reality, as you mentioned, so that our priorities, our needs don’t also become our excuses because a lot of times it can be like, oh, well it’s too hot now in the afternoon to work out. Okay, well you can own that. You can plan for it and then you can work out in the morning. Or I have dogs stepping on my face, which wake me up way earlier in the summer because it’s all of a sudden light out. Or even as you mentioned other people, as you said that, I was like, oh, I’ve never thought about the fact that my summer extends a little bit. Because Ryan’s birthday in September is usually a time we want to celebrate. And so the more we do consider vacations, which is something we usually jump to as the only thing, but when it’s light, the weather, all these different things, the more we can make sure that we’re meeting ourselves where we’re at. So those excuses don’t pop up because that’s often the problem. We haven’t owned that. Something’s changed, and then we get to this time where we’re like, what do I do now?

Sierra (04:55):
That’s absolutely the problem, and what helps so much is drafting and creating that calendar because like you said, we take into account vacations, but we might forget that a birthday is here, that someone’s graduation is then here, and then things will come up possibly. Or you might have to do some travel that you weren’t initially thinking of. And Corey, how many times have you done it? I’ve done it myself where I then look at my schedule and say, oh my goodness, there’s a birthday this weekend and then I have to go out with my girlfriend in two weeks and then the next weekend has something and the next weekend has something. So even planning and realizing that those long weekends, like Memorial Day weekends or even 4th of July, that even those two to three day weekends do play a huge part in how you,

Cori (05:57):
But the more we own that, the more we can find different strategies to navigate those things. Because I can tell you if there’s multiple weekends back to back, it’s easy to get in the mindset of like, well, does it even matter if I do anything during the week between because I’m basically going to be bad these other times? But it’s like, no. And how you even handle that might be based on your goals, your needs at the time where maybe you do a mini cut in between those two things, or maybe you just go back to normal habits or maybe because you know won’t be as motivated. You set some minimums and there’s no right or wrong, but by having that clear calendar where you can see everything, you can determine what might be the best course of action for you. And then even in that say, oh, that didn’t work out the way I planned. I had all these great intentions to do a mini cut, but I’m actually not motivated, so I realized that it didn’t work for me. How can we navigate that to help ourselves make the most educated decisions when it comes to how to handle the in-betweens, I’ll even say

Sierra (07:00):
Great question. One of the first things I would say is research, research, research, research. A lot of times, and we always think of vacations first, but I do want to also stress that it’s all the events that I’d recommend creating a calendar and putting all together throughout the summer months, but researching your environment and where you’re going to go and what that environment has is going to be a big first step. So for example, just some that I think off the top of my head, if we’re going on a vacation, will it be hot? Will it be cold? Are you in a hotel or in an Airbnb? Are you in some place with a microwave and refrigeration that will play a part in how your nutrition comes together? Do you even have control over your nutrition or are most of your food and drinks, will they be out?

(07:50):
Is something already planned? Is it an all you can eat buffet? Is it a resort, is it a cruise? Or do you have control of maybe one to two meals that you can go grocery shopping for? Are you going internationally? Is customs going to be something to plan for, especially if you’re bringing food items. So just all the things to research and know and don’t be afraid to delegate this research by the way. I would say don’t take it all on your back. If you can delegate that research and say, Hey, I need your help to look up this country or look up these cuisines, make it fun, make it family filled so that everyone can have an idea of what you’re about to embark on. So the research is going to be super important, but that also not only plays a part in nutrition, it plays a part in workouts as well.

(08:42):
What environment are we going move in? Are we close to a gym far from a gym? Is it a hotel gym or is it a hotel gym? We know the difference. Is it a hotel room floor that we’re looking at or are you able to walk with others? Is it going to be a trip where it’s a lot of steps? Disney World looks different than a cruise. So just all the different research that is kind of the first piece of putting those plans together. And then after you research, make sure to communicate. A lot of times we’ll do the research and then we’ll think that this journey and our goals is just by ourselves, but especially with unicorns, tell your wrangler what you researched so that we can help. We have all the different tips, tricks and plans to make sure that one vacation may not look like the same as another.

(09:36):
Vacation may not look the same as a three day weekend. So everything looks different. And so we want to help you navigate what’s realistic. And then also the people around you. Like I said before, you should not be the only person with all the research in your head. Make sure to let your trip mates know what you plan to do. I’m going to work out. I’m going to walk on a beach. Would you like to join me? I’m going to moderate my alcohol intake. I’m going to have a couple because guess what? I want to have a couple. We have a lot of Wrangler classes talking about alcohol, and the big key is if you want to choose to drink, then choose to drink because you want to choose to drink. But don’t be afraid to let people on your trip know that at the end of the day.

(10:22):
So it’s going to be that communication after that research plan, how your movement works. And then lastly, create an exit strategy. How many times do you get home and nothing’s in the refrigerator? How many times do you get home and you’ve eaten a lot of salt or had some alcohol and then all I want is a salad and some broccoli and none of it’s there. So creating that exit strategy, return home with a plan. One of our coaches, Lynn actually talked about this all the time, is schedule food delivery in advance. Make sure there’s food delivered when you’re at home or have some frozen options so that you can pop in the oven, pop in the microwave, the air fryer, and then maybe go grocery shopping after that. But you can prepare with protein and fruits and vegetables, make sure you have something. So at the end of the day, that was a lot, but it’s a lot to say, do the heavy lifting beforehand, research it, communicate and plan how you’re going. Move, come out with an exit strategy and know that all of that is to benefit you and your goals.

Cori (11:32):
It’s coming back to not only what your schedule is for the summer, but what your goals are, what your priorities are, how you want to strike balance. Because I brought up the in-between and I love that exit strategy because that leads back to the in-between and how we’re handling it and how we’re getting back on track because sometimes we just go right to the vacation, right to the holiday and we think, I can’t do something on this to reach my goals. And we try and white knuckle our way through, which ultimately sabotages us. Instead of saying, Hey, I’m a cocktail girl. I want my cocktails on vacation and I’m not going to have access to a gym, so I’m going to work out on the patio that’s there, which I’ve done patio workouts, I’ve done bed workouts, I’ve done any sort of workout, I need to figure out ways to do stuff.

(12:14):
But sometimes it’s just not possible and sometimes you don’t end up wanting to do it, and that’s okay, but owning that balance to then know how you’re going to have that exit strategy, how you’re going to get back in a groove, there is no one right way. And you might even determine that how you’re handling a vacation right now when you’re really driving hard towards a goal is not how you handle it later on. And I think the more you research, the more you see the opportunity or even see some of the struggles you’re going to face, right? Because if something is too hard to do and we’re ultimately assessing it and we’re not going to do it, then plan for it, right? Even if you ideally wanted to maybe cook more meals or work out consistently or do different things, if it’s not going to be possible, the more you can own that, the more you can then strike that balance around it.

(12:58):
And I do think you hit on something so key in the communication because we need to manage our expectations, and this also means managing the expectations of those around us. If you’re going on vacation with a spouse and you’re making changes to how you’ve usually vacationed, the more you have that clarity with them and that conversation, the more they’re also going to be on board and they can find their own balance versus you both wanting to do different things and then being on vacation and be like, oh no, we’re not on the same page. And then someone ends up giving and then there’s not happiness with something. So I think communication is almost the missing piece that we don’t see people utilize enough to find their balance on vacation even or through the summer or new season. Would you say that that it’s a key component,

Sierra (13:42):
Massive component. Corey, I cannot stress how many times have we been on a trip with others and we don’t want to be the buzzkill, we don’t want to be the person that wants to be the health and fitness person. We have our goals, we know what we want to do, but we know that everyone else might have different goals in mind. There’s no reason, especially if we are traveling with loved ones who know that we are on this journey, we’re on this goal trek, we want to make sure that we’re the best beast at ever. If that’s the case, why not share it with the other people around us? It’s not to be a bus kill, it’s to own your own journey, but also find the balance. And you touched on that recently, balance is going to be key because you still want to have fun at the end of the day, you’re going on a vacation, you don’t want to squander it an entire vacation if you realize that tracking to a complete macro ratio to a normal calorie range, if you’re all the way, for example, if you’re in a caloric deficit, if we’re focusing on fiber, if we’re focusing on a bunch of different things while not on vacation, and if that is just too much to focus on while you’re on vacation, own that reality, realize it, and then we talk about how to find the balance, then do we need to set a calorie cap?

(15:03):
Do we make sure that instead of two drinks a night, maybe it’s one drink a night or have a space in between drinks, make sure that there is moderation there. Do we focus on hydration because it is a lot of heat, right? Do we make sure that we set a hydration goal and a protein goal so that it’s much better for you to hold at the end of the day? It’s not really the numbers, it’s the consistency on the numbers that are going to maintain your results. So all that to say the communication is going to be exceptionally important, especially when it’s a bunch of people on the trip that also have access to the itinerary too. Two,

Cori (15:47):
I love that you brought up the different macro options because I think we get very set in viewing habits in only one way and balance over the year doesn’t mean that every day has the same balance. It could mean on vacation being like, Hey, my balance is that calories don’t count. But knowing this and the impact that’s going to have, no, I’m not going to make the excuse that every day is legendary and special and I can do this every day. That’s not giving yourself grace, that’s giving yourself an excuse, but you could say, Hey, this vacation to X place is really special or this holiday does mean a lot to me and so I’m going to strike a balance around it. Going more intensive with the macro ratios, focusing on fiber, focusing on quality foods and then saying, no, maybe I’m not tracking off of that. How do you navigate different options? I know you brought up the calorie cap and the protein minimum, but how can someone be not on their phone tracking if they’re on vacation and that doesn’t feel like the right balance for them, but still holding themselves accountable,

Sierra (16:47):
That’s where their communication comes in again. So obviously talk to your Wrangler. We have different strategies, especially we want to make sure that the balance is there that you’re not having to figure out and play Tetris with macros all at the dinner table. So for example, hand portion guide comes into play. We make sure that we can see what your meals are even tracking in different ways. If it’s not on your standard tracking software, maybe it’s taking pictures. Pictures are also important, and by the way, it’s a twofer because when you take pictures, you also have pictures of your vacation and trips. And a lot of times you’ll see that a lot of foods are very nice and pretty and with a lot of accoutrements. So it’s a twofer and it’s a win-win situation right there. So you can take pictures, you can plan your meals in advance.

(17:39):
Maybe the ones that you have more control over than others if you would like, maybe it’s the same breakfasts, maybe it’s the same lunches or it’s the same breakfast, the same snack. So that dinner can be a choice. Maybe it’s the calorie range and the protein range. Maybe you only track protein. I would say make sure that you at least track or do something. If you track and do something, you can then have reflections afterwards as opposed to an entire vacation, an entire weekend or an entire trip, kind of just going over our heads. Maybe have something tangible and some data that you can then return back to a year from now, maybe 20, 27 in the summer and say, Hey, this is what worked and this is what didn’t. So now I’m going to use what worked and I’m going to go 1% better and still be able to enjoy myself. So at the end of the day, I make sure to track something, make sure that you have a plank on what to track. But there are tons of ways to follow macros. Hit protein without having to go completely in your phone and miss out on all the beauty of your vacation trip in summer.

Cori (18:54):
Please, we know you’re taking pictures of your food anyway to post to Instagram. I mean, we all do it. We’re all guilty of it. But I love that because it’s even a memory for future plus. It’s that accountability, and I think what you touched on in there is so important of even the 1% improvement for next year, but meeting yourself where you’re at right now was something you’ll feel successful with because I do think a lot of times we think in ideals of ideally what we’d like to do and we don’t own. Again, this goes back to doing the research planning ahead and the more we say, Hey, what would make me be 1% better this summer? The more we meet ourselves where we’re at, and we do those improvements and then because we feel successful with them, we even want to do more. Because we might say it’s not possible to track on vacation, but if you’re taking a lot of trips, maybe there are some vacations that aren’t meant to be as much as food trips.

(19:46):
Or maybe there are days in that vacation where you’re like, Hey, I have more control. I can be a little bit more consistent and every day doesn’t have to be this legendary day and it makes the other days even more special. But there’s different ways to really strike that balance and make those 1% improvements so we can keep moving forward. So off of this, thinking about the different seasons, how would you, again, summarizing all the great tips you’ve given, how would you really tell someone to get started making the assessments? They need to understand that stuff does shift with the summer. That’s not a bad thing, but we’ve got to focus on meeting ourselves where we’re at.

Sierra (20:26):
First things first is you have to know where you’re, so especially things like roadmaps and how do we know where we’re going? If we don’t know where we are right now, make sure that you understand. Are you in a caloric deficit? Are you trying to lose body fat? Are you at maintenance? Are we building? Are we bulking? Are we trying to gain strength? So know what your goal is first and foremost, and know that whatever choices you make, own those choices. Knowing that choices no matter what, have consequences and that could be beneficial or that could be not as beneficial towards your goals. So the more that we know where we are and where we want to go, we can then plan how the summer and how these months are going to impact it. Just know for example, if we want to go out of town, we want to have fun, but we also want to continue to lose weight, then there are going to have to be some choices that you might have to make.

(21:24):
And what we want to do and what we want to do, don’t always meet and agree. So for example, what we want to do with our goals and what we want to do when we’re out on vacation might clash. So then what’s our priority? Hopefully it’s goals. So we might have to make those decisions based on the research, based on the communication, based on how we put plans together. So best place to start is know where you are and then know where you want to go, especially all throughout the summer. Summer is a time where we might not be wearing as much fabric or clothes. So that’s already a great, great strategy in terms of, okay, I might need to figure out what ratios or what hydration I need to stick with to make sure that in my summer months I can wear short sleeve shirts and feel phenomenal in these summer months.

(22:20):
I want to wear a bikini and I want to feel phenomenal. So that’s where knowing where you are, also planning how you are going to go through month to month and every event is going to look different. Corey talked about it even within the same event, every day will look different too. So will there be some days where maybe you can focus on the food and then maybe there are some days where you don’t focus as much on the food, but all of that compounds and it snowballs and it snowballs. We just have to make sure that it’s not multiple setbacks in a that when you come out of the summer, now we’re five steps away from our goal. So start with knowing where you are and then know where you want to come out of the summer with, and then all of the things in the middle, we talked through the details there

Cori (23:14):
And you hit on the most important word and mindset with it is choice. We have a choice every time we’re presented with how we want to handle something and how we handle it in a specific situation or season of even our goals might be different than how we want to handle in the future. And instead of seeing that as restrictive even, or maybe even against our goals, we just see it as the balance we’re creating and recognize that we can always make a different choice at a different time. And the choice we make, this might not ultimately work, and that’s okay, but it’s making those small changes because if we do too much, we also have to recognize the sabotage that can create despite the fact that we have really good attention. So it’s always sort of balancing everything on that. Any other closing thoughts? This has been fabulous, Sierra.

Sierra (24:06):
Just one. I am no expert at the summer, but I do love to talk through and all of the wranglers love to talk through different seasons and what struggles it might create and might bring about. So not only have we gone through different seasons and how they change, but we’ve also coached others through how to navigate the seasons and how to be even realistic and celebrate the wins that come out of these seasons. So think my final words are make sure that you have the reflections out of the season once it comes to August and September, once we start to trail and transition into the fall, either have it written down or notated how this summer was, that can be based on, you can do journals in the reflections, pieces of the playbook pages. There are so many places that you can actually write down how that summer went.

(25:02):
What you never want to do is go into the next summer, make the same exact decisions and choices, and then we’re in the same place. Again, those reflections will be important. Don’t forget that, but also avoid overcommitting. And this is one that I personally struggle with is a lot of times we’ll have events that are on our calendar ready to go, and then how many times has this happened? Friend comes up, says, Hey, you want to go out for X, Y, Z? Oh, hey, we got a three day weekend. And it’s typically the friends that do not plan by the way, but they’ll say, Hey, you want to come to do this? Let’s go here, let’s go there. You have a choice to say, okay, let’s do it, but I need to do this while X, Y, and Z. You could even say, Hey, I’m good for today.

(25:51):
Let’s plan something out in July or August so that I can still spend time with you. It’s not going to work for right now. So avoid overcommitting to every single event that pops up and comes your way as I wrangler. Liz, let me know earlier this week, a great way to say it is say yes to less, and that way you can have the room to enjoy yourself without feeling like you’re always having to do something, especially in the summer that it would be a lot. And the last but not least, ride the waves. There is so much, so much, so much that can happen and there’s a lot of planning that you can do, but not everything always happens the way that we plan. And that’s okay. Ride the waves, continue to have fun. Enjoy your loved ones, enjoy the people around you. Be present in the moment. And then we come out on the other side and then we talk about how to keep trucking in 2025.

Cori (26:52):
I love it. And that reflection component does make us learn from everything. It helps us find a better and better balance. As you mentioned, we’re all constantly evolving that balance. I know my summer balance is different than it was the previous summer because I’ve learned from mistakes and things I really liked, and we are just enjoying life as we’re trying to move towards our goals. So Sierra, thank you so much. This was so helpful guys. Would love to hear what really resonated with you, how you are planning ahead for the summer months and really meeting yourself where you’re at. But thank you Sierra. Have a great rest of your week.

 

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Cori (00:00):
Welcome to the Redefining Strength Podcast. Everything you need to succeed on your health and fitness journey, even the stuff you don’t want to hear. Act as if I want to talk about four ways to help you become the person that you want to be. And I say, act as if and really differentiate this from fake it till you make it because there is a big mindset shift that happens when you think I am acting as if I am the person I want to be versus I am faking the habits. Just that word fake means that you’re not embracing them, that you don’t believe in them. And I realized the big difference between these attitudes when I was first starting redefining strength. I’ve actually noticed it multiple times throughout my life when I went to college and I was told I wouldn’t play because I was the lowest recruit.

(00:44):
And I decided I was going to act as if I was the top recruit that year and going to play, and I ended up playing. But I also saw it when I first started redefining strength. And I was telling myself, I’m not that person in front of the camera, which you might not believe now. I’m not that person to take the photos. I’m not that person to do X, y, and Z thing. And ultimately it was a big push from Ryan, my butthead and my partner in crime, my now husband who at the time I was dating, and he said, if you’re going to do this, you need to step in front of the camera. You need to embrace all these different things. And I thought to myself, that’s not who I am. I’m the nerdy kid at the back of the class. And then I realized I hadn’t been that person for a while.

(01:20):
That going to college, I decided I was going to be more outgoing, that I wanted to change the way I interacted with people, my social setting, my social appearance. So I started shifting my identity at that point, and I had embraced acting as if it wasn’t faking anything, it was just saying, Hey, this is the person I want to be. What traits, what actions does this person take? And so with starting redefining strength, I realized, okay, I have to step in front of the camera. I have to get comfortable doing these things. And it’s not easy to start, but I realized I was acting as if I was the person that I wanted to be. And at some point it becomes just who you are. And I wanted to give you some tips and perspectives to help you also embrace that mindset shift. Because change requires change.

(01:58):
And if we’re constantly fighting back against the changes, we’re never going to see the new result that we want. And in acting as if we are choosing to really create the new habits, embrace the new habits that align with the identity of the person that has the goals we want. Because when we are trying to reach a goal, it’s not just losing the weight, it is becoming the person that has the lifestyle that maintains that weight loss even long-term. So tip number one, embrace the discomfort and show up anyway. A lot of times when we are acting as if it does not feel natural, it does not feel normal, but we have to start shaping even our mindsets because that’s the thing. We a lot of times put actions on ourselves, put tasks we should do on ourselves, put habits we should do, but they aren’t aligned with what we’re actually thinking.

(02:42):
And that’s where the disconnect happens, where we don’t embrace those things, we go on another diet plan versus adjusting our lifestyle. So as you start to think who is this person that has the life, has the goals that I want, and how can I act as if you need to recognize that it’s going to be very uncomfortable times or discomfort as I like to say, because it makes you sort of smile and embrace it a little bit more. And again, mindset is key, but we want to think about how can we show up as that person every single day? How can we take those actions? How can we not mentally rebel against the changes that we really need to make? And I think it’s key that we recognize that a lot of times when we say I can’t, it’s not actually that we can’t. It’s really us saying to ourselves, I’m not comfortable being uncomfortable in that way.

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And that’s where we have to push back. We have to challenge ourselves to be like, well, why am I not comfortable being uncomfortable in this way? Why do I believe I can’t? Where am I feeling the pushback from the hard so that I’m not wanting to embrace this habit? Not wanting to embrace this mindset. And a lot of times we’ll say, well, nothing’s ever worked before or this hasn’t worked before. And we’re dooming ourselves with doubt because we don’t truly know what’s possible and where we are right in this moment isn’t where we once tried this habit even before. And that shift in lifestyle, in mindsets, in beliefs, in anything in our environment can really make something that even didn’t work before work now or the way we approach that habit change can be different now because of other factors. So we want to think about even though the action is awkward, how can we embrace one small change and be comfortable with that small change?

(04:18):
How can we push into the hard just a little bit more? Because growth really does mean taking action before we’re ready. Then tip number two, set identity driven habit goals. So when we’re thinking about it, we want to think about, okay, what’s in line with the ultimate identity that I need that I would like to call destination be set. It is our dream identity, so to speak. Now looking at the reality of who you are, you might be like, oh goodness, that’s actually quite a far journey to the identity I want to embrace. And I don’t think I can get there in one step, but what’s one step you can take today to move forward on that path? Because often we just see the end destination and think, I’m so far from that. How do I get there that we don’t see the one clear action we can take right in front of us?

(05:06):
So as you’re setting identity driven habit goals, don’t only think about where you want to go, think about that identity enough to have that outlined, but then take it back to where am I currently? What does my current lifestyle look like? Because the more we meet ourselves where we’re at to take that one step forward, the more likely we are to ultimately get there. Habits can be broken down into so many different ways and we can build upon them. If you have to eat 130 grams of protein in one day and right now you’re eating 90, maybe it’s not realistic to just go revamp all your meals because you’ll feel miserable. You’ll reject the habit so to speak, because you have to do such a big increase. Maybe you’re like, okay, I’m eating 90 grams right now. How can I eat 95? How can I eat a hundred?

(05:44):
How can I make one small shift that is towards the identity that I want to build? And that’s really where the magic happens. And this can feel weird, and I can tell you I always believed I wasn’t a goal setter. I resisted New Year’s resolutions. I’m like, oh, I don’t like setting goals. And I realized it was because they weren’t driven by action. A lot of times they were just wishes and dreams. But when you’re outlining that identity and you’re understanding the habits it takes to be in that goal identity that you have, you’re giving yourself action items and then you can list those out and break those down to really help yourself move forward. But it is about giving yourself even those micro goals so that you can see the little habits adding up. It is about really anchoring yourself in where you are now with that clear vision of what that lifestyle really looks like.

(06:29):
And remember that all of these habits that you’re taking on a daily basis, our votes for who you want to become, they’re all what truly creates the goal, even though you can’t see it snowballing right away, but the little actions and if we can celebrate those wins, they reinforce the identity we’re building. Then tip number three, create minimums so you always move forward. I am big on doing the minimum, and don’t get me wrong, I like to see results as fast as possible and complain with the best of them about how results aren’t happening fast enough, even when I know the reality of results in achieving body recomp and achieving different fitness goals. But we have to remember that the minimums are what ultimately move us forward. It’s not doing a perfect plan at the perfect time. We all do that. We all get really good at dieting down because in January we get motivated and we do these six week shreds and 21 day fixes, but ultimately we only are good at dieting down and we never learn to maintain because life shifts, we don’t have that perfect time anymore.

(07:29):
We can’t just be on this perfect plan. Life happens and we don’t know what to do. And that’s where minimums really come into play. It’s about making our lows less low because the more you can do at the worst of worst times, the more you’re going to be able to do at perfect times. And if you can make your lows less low, trust me, your highs are going to get higher. So really consider the minimums that you can do. Minimums are what make us disciplined and disciplined is what creates that identity because we’re replicating those habits without thought. So as you’re going through thinking about the changes you have to make, if you’re starting to feel that the effort doesn’t feel worth the outcome, think where am I maybe doing a little bit too much right now that is pushing you back against other priorities in my life or other things that I value, or even just the time that I have and the schedule that I have, which time comes out of what our priorities are?

(08:16):
Because our priorities, if we don’t own them, become our excuses, but consider what the pushback is against. Is it against you cutting out a non-negotiable? So how can you do the minimum? How can you do a little bit more than what you’re doing right now to move forward? How can you even scale back a habit that’s feeling a little bit too hard to stick with something that’s still an improvement? Because in those improvements, not only are we changing our habits ultimately to take steps forward towards that person we want to become, we’re acting as if, but we’re shifting mindsets because we don’t recognize that the more you do, the more you do. And that success mindset builds through what we accomplish. And when we feel like we’re not being successful with something, we doubt the habits even more. Our mindset becomes a negative one, which makes us shift into not taking the actions we need and defaulting back into the comfortable.

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So remember that these minimums aren’t just about the habits that you’re building that are transforming you and are pushing you on that journey to the identity you want to become. They are you acting as if, but they’re also creating that success mindset and that mindset helps you more embrace that new identity, helps you truly believe that you’re acting as if, and again, not just faking it till you make it. Then tip number four, take full ownership whether you want to recognize it or not. Ultimately, you are in control of who you become. Yes, life throws things at us and we can’t always control every event that comes our way, every situation we find ourselves in, but we can always control our perspective. We can always choose to see it as obstacle or opportunity. We can choose to learn from it or we can choose to give up.

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We can ultimately always choose how things impact us and how we respond. And again, in acting as if when you’re hit with something hard, when you’re hit with something unexpected, think about that identity that you’re building. How would that person act in that situation? When you find yourself defaulting back into your natural response, your comfortable response, the response you’ve always done, the routine you’ve always repeated, pause, assess, take ownership of this opportunity to make a change and will it be easy? Oh no. It goes back to tip number one. You’ve got to embrace the discomfort, but you’ve got to really see it as that opportunity and vote big vote for who you want to become because those hard points, the points where it would be so easy to default back into what is natural to self-sabotage when we’ve always self-sabotaged to go to the cupboard and grab out cookies or chips when we’re stressed because that’s what we’ve always done at those points.

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That’s where we can take that big leap forward into our new identity by pausing and really pushing into the hard. But it means taking ownership versus blaming things outside yourself. Well, it was a stressful day at work. Well, this came up well, this is just the pattern I’ve always done. This is who I am. No, this is who you were. But take ownership. Take time to recognize that you have this opportunity to act as if and shift those mindsets because we are what we believe, whether we want to recognize it or not. And we don’t often realize the tapes sort of playing in our head, but it’s playing. And the more we can pause and build that self-awareness, the better off we’re going to be. But reflect on the failures, reflect on the learning experience, reflect on the good things that happen. Too often we’re like, yay, I did it, and then we just move forward versus being like, how did I do this?

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How can I repeat more of this? How can I embrace whatever happened here? The magic to use more of this in other areas, but take ownership and really use that reflection to learn a lot about yourself, both good and bad situations. So with all of this and acting as if, I want you to really take a step back because I think in making some of these changes, we think, oh, well, I’m bad at this. I’m bad at tracking. I’m bad at being consistent with my workouts. I’m bad at this. No, you are not bad. You just haven’t practiced it yet enough. And in acting as if we are practicing consistently and we’re going to still make mistakes, but we’re practicing to learn to get it right, then we can’t get it wrong and then until it is who we really are, it’s a big part of our being.

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But remember, you have to practice to get better at something, and that means embracing that you are going to make mistakes that you are going to have to learn. And there is no right time to start. The right time to start was probably yesterday. The next best time is right now because the more you, again, learn to do the minimum at times that don’t feel ideal, the more you’re going to be able to feel strength and confidence in what you can overcome, but also move forward when times are really good and capitalize on those perfect periods to do a little bit more to see results a little bit faster. So I want to encourage you act as if outline what that identity you have to embrace to have the goals you want to have really looks like. Then take a step back to look at where you are right now and start connecting the dots with little steps forward and little habit changes and little mindset shifts, but you’re not faking anything. You are truly embracing the habits and actions that you need to take and how your mindsets have to shift to really promote and believe in those things because that is how you’re going to act as if to become the person you want to be.

 

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