Yup you heard that right. We make things impossible because we tell ourselves they aren’t possible.
And guess what?
Sure…everything isn’t possible…nor we will achieve that goal in the same way someone else has even if we get there.
Getting abs for you may be different than for me.
We of course all have genetic limitations and pre-dispositions.
But to just say you can’t get abs…well why not still strive for YOUR version of your leanest physique?
Why just say you can’t have that exact thing and give up?
Seriously then what is the option?!
So often if we believe we can’t have something we just don’t even try!
But we’ve got to stop telling ourselves we can’t if we want to move forward.
Life is about constantly growing and improving. That is the fun in it.
And I do truly believe that too often we write ourselves off.
I didn’t think I could get abs!
I didn’t think I could deadlift 310 pounds.
I didn’t think I could get a tennis scholarship to a Division I team and play.
I didn’t think I could start a business and go out on my own.
Heck I didn’t think I could be that person in front of the camera!
But I also didn’t not try.
There will always be a DOUBT that you can’t do something, but while I didn’t necessarily know it was possible until it was, I believed in the opportunity.
I believed that there was no point not to try.
And I think that’s the key, realizing the alternative.
Which the alternative is to just give up, never move forward, never improve.
Is that really what we want?
Any time I’m presented with these situations I like to reflect on what I do, what I’ve seen successful clients do, to share tips…and here are 3 mindset shifts I think are key to putting ourselves out there and seeing what is possible.
#1: So What If It Isn’t The Same?
If you have loose skin, your abs may not look like that Inspo picture you have.
But guess what? Almost no ones abs look exactly like someone else’s.
Our lifestyle and previous habits and scars are all there.
But that doesn’t mean you can’t have YOUR best looking abs.
We need to shift our mindset to saying we want this as it pertains to OUR best selves in that area.
Whether it is an aesthetic goal or performance goal we need to see that “ideal” as us achieving it in our own version.
This drives us forward.
Maybe you’ll never deadlift 400lbs. Maybe you’ll never be an elite marathoner.
But why not say you want to reach the elite level that YOU can?
We can always be our healthiest, fittest, happiest selves. But we need to remember that our journey and our ultimate win WILL look different than someone else.
#2: Possible ALWAYS Seems Impossible…Until You Get There
If you’ve never achieved something before, you don’t know how to get there.
It’s also why I hate those fit to fat to fit again things…so difference when you know how to do something or your body even wants to get back to that point.
But honestly, over your entire journey to results, you don’t fully know if you’ll get there until you do.
It’s why celebrating the habits, remembering why we started and then recognizing the wins along the way are key.
It’s why you also have to see everything as an EXPERIENCE.
Life is meant to be LIVED. What experiences do you want out of it?
What ways would you like to improve?
Because even if you don’t “get there” isn’t it fabulous to see the growth? To know you moved forward? To know you’ve learned?
Heck to even know you tried?!
I never want a regret because I didn’t at least TRY at something.
So just remember it will be impossible till you prove it is possible!
#3: What’s The Alternative?
This might sound weird, but when I doubt myself, when I consider not doing something, I always think…
“What’s the alternative?”
And often I realize the alternative is keeping myself stuck. Keeping myself in a situation I do NOT like.
Not seeing what I CAN actually achieve.
Really if we aren’t choosing to try for a goal, often we aren’t allowing ourselves to grow.
And who doesn’t want to learn and improve and grow?
Who keeps wanting to be frustrated feeling like they’re stuck?
So if you’re scared to get started, if your scared of failing…which there is always a chance you will, think about the alternative of never trying.
There is the saying, you never regret the workout you did…Well I honestly think that applies to most goals we work toward even if we “failed.”
Most of the time we don’t regret TRYING. We feel good for it.
Strength comes from overcoming things. Growth comes from stepping outside our comfort zone.
Don’t fear failure.
Realize it is a part of success.
And realize honestly that the alternative of not at least TRYING to reach something we think MAY be impossible is staying stuck and believing it will never be possible.
I don’t know about you, but that gives me FOMO!